Hi Everyone,

My boyfriend left me about 7 weeks ago for a girl he works with. I have maintained N/C since then but I really love him and would take him back under certain circumstances. I don't want to call and beg him or push him away I want him to come back because he wants to. But his Birthday is in late October and by that time will have been about 4 months since we brokeup. Anyway my question is could I send him a simple B-Day card that simply states, I MISS YOU! And hope you have a happy Birthday? I just want him to know that I'm not going to bug him or call him constantly but I just want him to know I'm still thinking about him.

No send him nothing, that will just show him that you are hanging around waiting for him!! Will not look good... TRUST ME!

I know its hard but saying things like I would take him back... HE isn't coming back darling SORRY to say his GONE...

Find yourself a guy who will treat you right and look after you , plenty more guys out there don't ait on one that chose another girl over you... Don't blame yourself caiuse in the end its his loss.

Get happy meet another guy and that's when he will want you back!!

Believe it or not that's when you won't want him any more...

Hard to believe what I'm sayiong but you will realise in time and when you meet someone else you will then understand and wonder why you even thought about sending such a creep a birthday card!!

He chose her so LET HIM GO HIS NOT WORTH IT...

Based upon what you have written in your previous posts and the good, helpful responses that you have gotten, I would have to agree with the answer above.

There "are many fish in the sea." I am sure that you will find a "catch" that is just right for you.

I have had quite a number of women with whom I have been truly in love with. Does it mean that I have quit loving some of them? No. Does it mean that I can continue to show love for them on a really personal basis? No. Does it mean that some of them might still love me? Yes. Does it mean that, even though we might have been and still have love for each other, that it was the kind of relationship that would have been best to last for a lifetime in such a thing as marriage? No. Does it mean that I can love someone else equally as much? Yes.

Time to move on to the "best fit" as far as a relationship.

I think is a good idea as well as a bad one. But it all depends what happens between now and then.

I would not even worry about sending him a card rite now. It's 2 months from now and you may be healed enough not to even send him one. But when that time comes I would not send him a B-card. Why?

If you are healed, you will look like your still pining over him and probably boost his ego.
If your not healed you will still look like what I posted above but you will feel worse because he didn't respond back or responds back for you to leave him alone.

Two months into my breakup I e-mailed my ex fiancé happy b-day, yes we started talking again. That made me happy but then I told her I still wanted us to be married. Worse mistake of my life. Not only did I go back to square one I was just hurt that much more because she said NO. Then probably made her day because I look like little puppy begging for a bone.

Bad idea, no cards! Please.

OK whatever you do, don't say "i miss you" on the card, don't be all lovey dovey and stuff either. If you have to send one (and your rite it has been 4 months) just keep it birthday related k?
But you shudnt put your life on hold for the past.