Ask Me Help Desk - Child support

Ok just had some question about child support?

Why if some one receves child support they arnt reqieard to work?

And why can't the person paying support clam the child (or childern) on there taxes?

Why should are childern be supporting us?

We as mother's shouldn't have to worry about support we brought them here too so why should we have to worry about if there dad going to pay for them it's there lose not are's are childern going off with someone just because they pay support have you ever set back and thought about the hole thing on support it's like were saleing time with are kid's I'm not agenst child support the part I'm agenst is how people spend it I think it shouldn't be spent on bill's are childern shouldn't have to pay are bill's we should be doing it all on are own I see way to many mom's don't even buy there kid's any thing with the child support they get there hair done or there nail's or they go tanning and every time I say that some one allway's say's well at lest they buy them something but they don't every one else does so really the support go's to getting the mom what ever she want's has any one thought about what's going to happin if the dad die's? Where's the support going to come from? The state that's where and they will make you work for the money they pay you.. What are we showing are daughter's that it's OK to get pregnant because all you have to do is get the dad for support... and what kid of message is that? Are childern of tomorrow need stableity and guidance and where are they going to get that message from if all where showing them is having kid's pay's for it self and the grandparent's end up raiseing there grandchild because there daughter got the wrong message are childern need us for more then money will pay... I am truly sorry if this make's any one mad but I really do think are child support system is backward's or maybe it's just me maybe I'm just tired of seeing woman miss use there child's money that money is to take care of the child not the parent...

I almost couldn't understand what you wrote, but I think we agree to some extent. I believe child support is way too common and no one should be able to live on it and not work for themselves. IT IS ONLY FOR THE KIDS... I also think they pay too much in some cases. I can understand that it takes money to live and raise a child. Let us look at it this way, if I get a divorce I would make so much money off my husband, we have four kids. Roughly 1400 a month, wow that is a lot.
Let's say I have the kids 1/2 and he does 1/2 the time... why in the world would anyone pay anyone in that situation, just wrong if you ask me. And we all should know that fair is fair but too many people are greedy!! If I had my kids more than my husband I would expect he would help a bit, they would still be on his insurance, we could split the medical bills in half, it would be my fault if I couldn't pay them. This all stems from the "poor me" syndrome, I just don't like it. I do not apologize to the women and men out there who think they are owed something for nothing! Good luck to all those little lives that were ruined by their parents stupid mistakes. Give me a break.

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Originally Posted by startover22

I almost couldn't understand what you wrote, but I think we agree to some extent. I believe child support is way too common and no one should be able to live on it and not work for them selves. IT IS ONLY FOR THE KIDS..... I also think they pay too much in some cases. I can understand that it takes money to live and raise a child. Let us look at it this way, if i get a divorce I would make so much money off my husband, we have four kids. Roughly 1400 a month, wow that is a lot.
Let's say I have the kids 1/2 and he does 1/2 the time.......why in the world would anyone pay anyone in that situation, just wrong if you ask me. And we all should know that fair is fair but too many people are greedy!!! If I had my kids more than my husband I would expect he would help a bit, they would still be on his insurance, we could split the medical bills in half, it would be my fault if i couldn't pay them. this all stems from the "poor me" syndrome, I just don't like it. I do not apologize to the women and men out there who think they are owed something for nothing! Good luck to all those little lives that were ruined by their parents stupid mistakes. Give me a break.

Sorry if you had a heard time I'm not good at it but I try... and I want'ed to add if the mom don't want the dad in the picture and she fight's and lie's to keep him out of the child life for 10 year's then I'm sorry but I don't think she should be intitled to any thing... and think you for reading it and looking at it from another person view...

And you child support is way to high did they forget it take's two to make a child and why should the guy be the one who make sure her bill's are pay'ed I think they need to fix the child support law's...