My husband works usually 9-10 hours a day, but I am missing our during the week love fests. He just doesn't seem interested at all in sex during the week anymore. And sometimes he works Sat. too so that leaves only one day a week sometimes. It really hurts my feelings, because he doesn't act interested in me at all. Not even touching sexually. What do you think I should do? Is this normal? Any one else have this schedule?

Physical demands, coupled with mental tiredness can easily do this. Add getting older (I didn't say old), not working out or as healthy... it can quickly add up.

I'm a "night person" sexually. My partner is the exact opposite. Which, of course, means in a converted morning person... or at least morning-breath-sex-is-better-than-none-most-of-the-time guy.

So... he gets some slack and you get some sympathy. My wife is absolutely done at night. Shed be happy to "oblige" me if she could keep remotely conscious. She just works her arse off from dawn to dusk.

I doubt he's not interested in you. Its just all the noise that can distract and physically and mentally decrease the libido. Try to find some in between. Sometimes a spark can inspire more sparks.

My partner and I try to take a night out every couple of months. Kid gets a sitter. We get dinner, date, and a hotel room. Is it stupid to rent a hotel room less than two miles from where you live? Nah. You leave all the noise behind. Its worth every spend penny.

So you need to talk to him. It might not be easy. When my wife says she misses me, sometimes I've reacted with frustration or sharply... mostly its just repackaged guilt. If you can find a way to reconnect, like with a planned date or weekend, that might help him "see" you better.

Sometimes life just gets in the way. Sometimes you need to give it a shove.

need to tell him how you feel x I'm hear if you want to talk

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I have talked to him and of course he just says he's tired. He says he still wants me, but I guess I need to be shown more. I've told him that too. I guess I just don't want a weekend- sex- only kind of sexual relationship, you know?

Come on guys. I need your thoughts about my post. Nobody else has this going on??

I don't see why there is no sex during the week.

I have sex during the week, and on weekends too. :D

Why you post no sex during the week? Are you trying 40 days 40 nights stuff?

Sex is a great stress reliever... and helps one relax even if they work hard during the week. And surely he can find a half hour for a quicky. If he really cares like he says. Try taking the initiative. Few men are bothered by that. Maybe that's all he needs to get going.

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How long have you been together? May not be just work!

Sorry, can't help. However I can commiserate. My wife is not at all interested in sex. In 22 years of marriage we have only had oral once. Do you have any idea how hard it is not to cheat? And if I did, I would be the bad guy. This sucks, or rather doesn't.

Common problem.

Surprise him one time with something you've never said or done... that oughta get him thinking at work... play out the fantasy for him casually in conversation in bed. See how he reacts... you all are in a routine... and have shifted to busy friends...

Communicate but in a positive way... i.e. "how good it's gonna be" "how good it's gonna feel.." is there a way you can do this and have it not be awkward? Was your sex life ever hot?

Give Me A Call End Of Your Problem X

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How long have you been together? May not be just work!

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We have been together 17 yrs (married 15). We are both 34. We run hot and cold, but I wish hot all the time.

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Gee... hope the girl you are with knows how "great" you are... apparently having the superpower of getting any woman off every time, all the time, just isn't enough?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/psychi...tml#post587547

Maybe its just me. I think this kind of post (hey babe, give me a try) is sophomoric and doesn't help the OP at all.

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gee...hope the girl you are with knows how "great" you are... apparently having the superpower of getting any woman off everytime, all the time, just isnt enough?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/psychi...tml#post587547

maybe its just me. i think this kind of post (hey babe, give me a try) is sophomoric and doesnt help the OP at all.

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Thanks I agree. The last thing a woman in this situation needs is someone telling her how much sex they're having. How about rubbing my nose in it. I need help, not bragging.;)

Far more guys think they are great in the sack than actually are. Same goes for women.



Most of them brag about how great they are. Trust me I've dated a few women that thought they were gods gift to men. Trust me, they weren't. And I'm understating that last comment.

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My husband works usually 9-10 hours a day, but I am missing our during the week love fests. He just doesn't seem interested at all in sex during the week anymore. And sometimes he works Sat. too so that leaves only one day a week sometimes. It really hurts my feelings, because he doesn't act interested in me at all. Not even touching sexually. What do you think I should do? Is this normal? Any one else have this schedule?

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I just got done having my monthly "friend" for 18 straight days. In that time I have pleasured my husband 3 times with getting nothing in return. So last night I took a long bath thinking he would start something. He played with my butt a little and then went out to play video games with the kids until 10 and I went to bed. Wouldn't you think he would be wanting me pretty bad by now? What is wrong with him?? It hurts me badly.