Ask Me Help Desk - Her past, my pain

Is it normal to feel upset when finding out about my girlfriends past? We've been together for about half a year and on one boring night we were messing around in a truth or dare kind of game, more just truth, and over the phone... were both in our mid to late teens, and I asked one thing she hadn't told anyone before, and she told me how far she went with her ex, a guy who's name I won't say ( just because it makes no difference) that she had dated for about 3 months, all I was told is he put his hands down her pants a lot and he liked to fool around a lot.

I got thinking maybe I'm just obsesing, I'm a virgin, supposedly she is to... but am I obsessing over this too much? Or is it normal to be mad about that... especially because this guy used her just for that and dumped her, and now remains a close friend of hers... I don't know if its normal to be this pissed... she's only 13, 14 this fall . I'm 17... and something about it also sickens me.. at her age she did that.. and I don't know.. anyone felt this way before or have anything to say, am I just weird? :(

Why are you dating a 13 year old to being with?

Wel I'm 17 she's pretty much 14 I duno its only 3 years and I didn't know how old she was until we had really gotten to like each other.. I gues for that matter its more opinion on age and dating...

Wow that's a big age difference at that age. Don't go there... Your young! By the way what's in the past is in the past. Leave it there.

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Originally Posted by DevinFromDarkness

Is it normal to feel upset when finding out about my girlfriends past? weve been together for about half a year and on one boring night we were messing around in a truth or dare kinda game, more just truth, and over the phone... were both in our mid to late teens, and i asked one thing she hadnt told anyone before, and she told me how far she went with her ex, a guy whos name i wont say ( just becuase it makes no difference) that she had dated for about 3 months, all i was told is he put his hands down her pants alot and he liked to fool around alot.

I got thinking maybe im just obsesing, im a virgin, supposedly she is to... but am i obsessing over this to much? or is it normal to be mad about that... especialy becuase this guy used her just for that and dumped her, and now remains a close friend of hers... i dont know if its normal to be this pissed... shes only 13, 14 this fall . im 17.... and something about it also sickens me.. at her age she did that.. and i dont know.. anyone felt this way before or have anything to say, am i just weird? :(

Omg that it soooo normal because you prob weren't expecting what she had to say. When my boyfriend found out about my ex he obsessed over it for months the kids name would simply make him leave my house without even saying goodbye or not speaking to me for the whole next day she can't change her past and she's with you now she her past doesn't really matter however its hurtful even though you weren't in the picture back then.. I was very bothered when my boyfriend told me his past.. even though I don't really believe him haha.. don't let it effect you it will only make her get mad if you get mad over it because its nothing that can be changed.

Thank you so much, that was probably the answer I needed to hear, I guess your right... the saddest part of it is I was in the picture, me and her are a big piture and there's more questions to come in my need of help, because were in a distance relationship, and we knew we liked each other at the time, and she didn't like him at the time but she didn't know I liked her... it was confusing but if I had just asked her out maybe things would have been different.. but no regrets, thanks a lot I'm going to go call her now and apologise for being mad earlier, thanks a lot, that really made me feel better :D