Originally Posted by x074619
So, my bf and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We broke up because he was starting to get distant and I picked a fight to try to get him to appreciate me...instead he said he thought we should breakup because he wasn't ready to be in a committed relationship with anyone and if we stayed together any longer, we'd have to get married and he's not ready for that (i'm 29, he's 25). So for the first 2 weeks of the breakup we saw each other a couple of times to talk about but it always ended badly. Then after that, he would call me twice a week to see how I was doing. Then about 5 weeks after the breakup I asked him to come pick up his stuff (we had lived together) and he came and we went out to dinner. I didn't get emotional. I played cool. He wants to stay friends. As I was leaving I told him that I can't be friends with him so please don't call me if you want to be just friends. And I said, "if you're not careful, you're going to lose me forever"...it wasn't an ultimatum...i played it pretty cool. I think. No tears, no nothing. Now its been 2 weeks since then. How long should I go with no contact? Forever? Or eventually, will I feel I can be friends with him? Why would he breakup with me and still want to be friends? I figure if you don't want to be in a relationship with me you don't get to keep me in your life for emotional support.