Ive spent 8 months trying to ploy and beg, apologizing blah blah blah, she told me things like "our relationship was superficial and long distance" now I just found out she's now in another long distance relationship anyway. This guy is the most cocky, self centered person I've ever heard of, he has girls flirting with him all over his myspace, and he flirts back... yet she thinks he respects her? And thinks he won't cheat on her? What is wrong with this girl?

Sweetheart put your running shoes on and run as fast as you can away from her. You don't deserve that. Find someone that will love you and only you. Someone who will respect you and there self. Good luck to you and hope everything works out for you.

Marcus her behavior is no longer your concern. She is a shallow, superficial girl and karma is biting her in the butt.

This is not your problem Marcus. Have you been following the post break up guide? Why do you even know about what's going on with her? I guess you haven't been following alonG> You are supposed to let everyone know not to talk about her or tell you anything. Or are you stalking around her myspace page and begging people to update you?

Marcus at this point, 8 months out of this relationship, you need to talk to a therapist. You are OBSESSED. This is severely unhealthy. You need to find a professional to help you with this. No one on here at this point can advise you.

Hello.

We need a little help from you so we can help you better.

How long where you together.
Was it all long distance (internet) or was part of it reality.
What did you do wrong.

Dennis777

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Dennis here is the history

You cannot judge a relationship from outside appearances. She may be entering into another bad one, but you can't know that for sure. Its important that you move on and stop worrying about her business.

Thanks for the help Glinda..

I agree with you that Marcus has to stop himself before he runs off that proverbial cliff!

I hope (but have my doubts) that he can 'get a life' and stop his obsession.

I guess obsession is an addiction too - with an alcoholic it's simple, give him all the booze he can drink and tell him to stop committing suicide in pieces. But, what do you tell someone who does not want to listen, and just wants to be heard?

MARCUS - We cannot spank her and tell to drop everything she's doing in her life just because you want her to. We cannot tell her to lie to you, to tell you that you are more important to her than life. She is grown up individual and she will go her way, unconcerned of how you feel about it. So, please stop making another person the center of your universe and work on being a strong individual instead of a whining kid.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_33_8.gifYou need a new perspective in life.

Its so weird, I know I've been like I whining kid, I habent been this way over any girl I've ever met in my life, I can't figure out why this girl has got me so skrewed up in the head... thankyou all for your advice again, I can tell I'm starting to be a pain, I won't bring her up again... have a good week. Thanks again.

Marcus YOU CANNOT GET THROUGH THIS BY YOURSELF.

You have to get some professional help with this. After 8 months you are still incredibly obsessed with her. This is clearly not something you can fix on your own. If you do not have medical insurance or if you do not have the money to go to a therapist contact your county's mental health services (typically through health & human services dept). You can get care and the amount you py is based on your income. You could also contact your local college and universities psychology departments. Individuals obtained Masters degrees have to work with patients and its done under the supervision of a professor and that counseling is free. Please do not wait another day.

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Marcus YOU CANNOT GET THROUGH THIS BY YOURSELF.

You have to get some professional help with this. After 8 months you are still incredibly obsessed with her. This is clearly not something you can fix on your own. If you do not have medical insurance or if you do not have the money to go to a therapist contact your county's mental health services (typically through health & human services dept). You can get care and the amount you py is based on your income. you could also contact your local college and universities psychology departments. Individuals obtained Masters degrees have to work with patients and its done under the supervision of a professor and that counseling is free. Please do not wait another day.

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I have to spread before I can rate you again, but I wholeheartedly agree with you on this.

Marcus - I hope that you sign on again and read these.. We really care and want only for you to get help and find a way to happiness.

Marcus.

I have to agree with above, you need help to get past her. I have the feeling its not her as much as a group of things in your life that is making you hold on to her the way you are. At this point it doesn't matter why what matters is you get the help you need so you can get past this and get on with your life.

Dennis777