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  • Aug 26, 2007, 05:42 PM
    redbeard
    Will she come back, I've changed!
    Hi my name is chris.
    I'm a 17 year old guy and I love my ex girlfriend to bits! You see the reason why she doesn't trust me or respects me is because I cheated on her with more than one person and one of them being my previous ex girlfriend but I have changed and she has seen that change in me. We still get on really well and have so much in common. I find it harder and harder each day to go on just being her friend I want another chance I need another chance! Should I ask her to give me another chance?? please help me! I really love her and would do anything to get her back! :(
  • Aug 26, 2007, 07:20 PM
    talaniman
    Ask her, then and don't be surprised if she doesn't want you as a b/f. It takes a long time to earn trust with someone you have done a lot of dirt to.
  • Aug 26, 2007, 07:32 PM
    sarah1989
    Well this is what happened with me and my ex he cheated on me with his ex.
    I stupidly gave him another chance, we have had short breaks and in those times his slept with other girls.
    So I wouldn't blame her if she doesn't come back to you.
    I gave my ex few to many chances and things don't change even if they do you can never trust them!!
  • Aug 26, 2007, 07:41 PM
    GlindaofOz
    All you can do is ask. If she says no then you need to move on and start a new relationship. Most girls would be wary about picking up a relationship with someone who already cheated on them.

    If she says no do not ask again consider the situation not open for further discussion. Now if she says yes you have a huge weight on your back to insure that you do not mess this up again by cheating. If you cheat on her again she will hate herself for ever trusting you again and you I can guarantee you will lose the friendship that you have with her forever.

    So you need to decide can you really not cheat on her? How do you know you've changed? You can't just declare yourself changed. Have you been in another relationship where you didn't cheat?
  • Aug 26, 2007, 07:42 PM
    Ash123
    Redbeard,

    She is not coming back any time soon. If you want to get her back it's going to take a lot of work, which may cut it into your player-like schedule...
    But if you are truly changed let her observe the new you over the course of 8-12 months from afar, and tell her now and then you screwed up.
    Maybe - you never know...
  • Aug 26, 2007, 07:51 PM
    Homegirl 50
    How do you know you have changed. You loved her before and cheated twice. How do you know that you are just not missing the relationship but when another girl comes in the picture you won't cheat again.
    I think you need to leave her alone. If she is adjusting to life without you, give her a break, leave her alone.
  • Aug 27, 2007, 09:20 AM
    Jiser
    Wouldn't be surprised if she said no! Once a cheater allways a cheat.

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