So I've had sex already and everything and there was no pain involved. But no pleasure either. I've tried doing it manually myself and using a vibrator.. my partners tried both and has performed cunnilingus on me but I felt nothing then either. I'm completely comfortable with myself and I've been exploring my body for years. I'm thoroughly educated in the topic of sex and the different taboos and such. I know (I think) most of what there is to know. I'm comfortable with the guy I'm with. In fact I'm quite happy when I'm with him. Still I've never had an orgasm. Clitoral stimulation doesn't exactly help me either. There are so many things I've tried, its ridiculous. I use visual aids, fantasies, and (lol you can think this is weird if you want but I don't really care haha) I've watched people. I hear tell that nipple stimulation also exists. Notice I said 'hear tell.' as in I wouldn't know. For all intents and purposes, my vagina is dead. Lol. I know it frustrates my guy (I don't know if it makes him feel inadequate or what) but hell still give it a whole hearted effort. I'm happy when I satisfy him. Getting reactions from him turns me on.. but I feel so bad giving back nothing. I try my hardest to get into it. Its just... nothing. I don't know what to do. Does anyone know if there's something I can get done or if there's something wrong with me>?< its really quite depressing.. so help. Please. And thank you ahead of time. :) [peace and love to everone]

How long have you been with your guy?

Are you on any kind of medications?

Instead of trying everything, why not relax and just be with each other. More foreplay, that is what you need, maybe?

I do not think there is anything wrong with you at all. It is all about relaxation, practise and foreplay. A lot of people tend to focus on the big O, but this focus could actually prevent it from happening.

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so ive had sex already and everything and there was no pain involved. but no pleasure either. ive tried doing it manually myself and using a vibrator.. my partners tried both and has performed cunnilingus on me but i felt nothing then either. im completely comfortable with myself and ive been exploring my body for years. im thoroughly educated in the topic of sex and the different taboos and such. i know (i think) most of what there is to know. im comfortable with the guy im with. in fact im quite happy when im with him. still ive never had an orgasm. clitoral stimulation doesnt exactly help me either. there are so many things ive tried, its ridiculous. i use visual aids, fantasies, and (lol you can think this is weird if you want but i dont really care haha) ive watched people. i hear tell that nipple stimulation also exists. notice i said 'hear tell.' as in i wouldnt know. for all intents and purposes, my vagina is dead. lol. i know it frustrates my guy (i dont know if it makes him feel inadequate or what) but hell still give it a whole hearted effort. im happy when i satisfy him. getting reactions from him turns me on.. but i feel so bad giving back nothing. i try my hardest to get into it. its just.... nothing. i dont know what to do. does anyone know if theres something i can get done or if theres something wrong with me>?< its really quite depressing.. so help. please. and thank you ahead of time. :) [peace and love to everone]

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Well that's all we ever really did before was foreplay. I've gotten to know him quite well in the last year. I love him. I really do. And I am relaxed too.. I have fun with it. But... I don't focus on 'the big o' (lol) I've pretty much given up trying on that one. I figure it'll happen when it happens. Haha I'm just confused as to why I can't even FEEL ANYTHING. Not even just orgasm-wise. Its not like I'm numb. But it doesn't feel good. Its like any other touch on my body. Ex:my knee cap. Yeah. Lol. And the only pills/meds I take are my because. And vitamins. Its been the same with every person (myself included) that I've been with. No jingly in that jangles if you will. Lol

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well thats all we ever really did before was foreplay. ive gotten to know him quite well in the last year. i love him. i really do. and i am relaxed too.. i have fun with it. but... i dont focus on 'the big o' (lol) ive pretty much given up trying on that one. i figure itll happen when it happens. haha im just confused as to why i can't even FEEL ANYTHING. not even just orgasm-wise. its not like im numb. but it doesnt feel good. its like any other touch on my body. ex:my knee cap. yeah. lol. and the only pills/meds i take are my bc. and vitamins. its been the same with every person (myself included) that ive been with. no jingly in that jangles if you will. lol

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haha yes and when it does I am quite sure I will be thrilled. Completely thrilled.

Don't worry so much... it took my boyfriend FOREVER to actually get me off... and I'm still not sure why... it'll happen eventually... and I'm sure you will probably be more than thrilled... and as for it fusterating your guy... mine always told me it was just because he didn't feel right if he was the only one getting any pleasure out of it... so don't worry too much about not... and just have fun with... I think that might have been part of my problem is that I was too worried about him and what he was thinking about me not getting off... to enjoy anything...

Best to see a doctor and have your hitamine levels checked.

I think that your best bet is to keep trying by yourself. If you haven't figured out what gets you off on your own it's going to be really hard for your boyfriend to figure it out for you.