My daughter is 4 now, she was born in VA. Her father was not present at the time of birth and only claimed his child after a paternity test I paid for. His name is not on the birth certififcate but we have been amicable for the past 4 years. Our current "agreement" verbally only, nothing legal, is he has her every other week and provides insurance for her through his work. There is no child suppport paid either way. We each take care of the bills for her at our own houses. He has been providing insurance for her under his last name which he has never legally changed.
The time has come for her to start preschool and I would like to remain amicable but need to know my rights. I would like to be as fair with him as possible and remain amicable but I am asking for the following:
He will keep insurance on her and file appropriate name change
He can have visitation at his supervision every weekend (if possible), major holidays (except Christmas, Easter and Birthdays (we will switch yearly) and as much as possible during school breaks with extended times during the summer.
Is this fair and what are my rights?