Please can someone tell me why I still feel pain and feel so empty inside ,I've been split up now 2 years from my husband and nearly coming to the end of completing my divorce but as much as I try to be happy I feellike my hearts bin ripped out.we wer 2 gether 24years.

Unfortunately you are going to have many days like this, because of the lenghth of the relationship, but cheer up, it will get better if you get busy doing the things that you enjoy, and get about rebuilding your life. Friends and family can help.

You are feeling this way because your life has drastically changed. But you will get through this. I hope you have friends and a good support system.

I agree with the answers above.

I would also like to add that 24 years together is a heck of a long time for a close commitment with another person. After my separation and divorce, it took me a number of years to get over it. I tried to keep myself as busy as possible, be around people and also not isolate myself. If you isolate yourself, then that puts you in danger of thinking irrational thoughts and "beating yourself up" and/or dragging yourself "over the coals" so to speak.

I know just how you feel. But, you have to try to move on. I tried unsuccessfully for two years to get back together with my wife. I don't regret trying that. But, I think that doing it for two years was a bit much. I could have used that time in efforts to move on. Do I still love things about my ex? Yes. Am I still in love with others whom I was very close to in the past, but because of differences we have now gone our separate ways? Yes.

It's a hard thing to realize that people do change and that no matter how hard we try, things just might not work out for two people to be together. I also felt like I had my heart ripped out, their were also children involved. I hurt for many years, but I did move on.

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Originally Posted by penelope pitstop

please can someone tell me why i still feel pain and feel so empty inside ,i,ve been split up now 2 years from my husband and nearly coming to the end of completing my divorce but as much as i try 2 be happy i feellike my hearts bin ripped out.we wer 2 gether 24years.

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I know how you feel, I was married, divorced and remarried to the same man. He left me with 2 babies at the time and married someone else.

Then 6 years later SHE divorces him he comes back to me. I feel like such a fool because he was the first guy who ever really cared and loved me until SHE walked in his life.

I feel like such a fool and I sometimes don't know why I even took him back.

He really doesn't deserve me.

It is because you do love him and that part of you will always be there, but will get something better. It seem obvious that he wanted this and you didn't.

Its always that way. You will find that special someone and your feeling will disappear before you know it. He's living his life you should too.

I have children too,3.Sometimes I think that's why I'm finding it so hard,having that contact still because of them.my family are not very supportive and most of my friends are married with lives of their own.I do beat myself up about it daily,trying to rationalise why things are the way they are,just want my thoughts to go away and let me be happy.work helps me because i.m busy,any suggestions on how to fill my spare time so I don't have to think too much and to meet friends,which I no I'm crying out for?

HI there... It's not easy to go over a relationship especially for women and if it was for long years... I have gone through it earlier and I know how do you feel... Your heart will take some time to heal... You need to help it out by stop thinking about what you used to have and start thinking of the future and what do you want to have in your life... if you were so happy and your marriage was so good it would not end up with divorce after all these years... so think of the negatives of this marriage whenever you miss him or feel sorry for yourself and remember that whatever happens happen for the best... Have a close look into your life and think of the things and parts you want to improve in yourself / life and do it... think of the divorce as a chance to live a new fresh life... be strong.. and things will get better...

Take care of yourself... Am there for you...

Ms. Redrose

Go out have fun, make one day all yours and find another one... not what you want to do? Hmm, two years you're still crying... SOMEONE ELSE CAN HELP YOU FILL THAT LONELY TIME YOU THINK ABOUT THE EX.

It works... really