My boyfriend went to a strip club
I have kind of a long story and want to know what I should do... I met my boyfriend on line over four years ago... we used to just talk to each other and after a few months we decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend... I live in ny and he lives in ky... we've met in person and in July we went away to jersey for a week together... he paid for everything... and he often talks about marrying me and I just finished 4 years of college and am now going back to get my masters and we decided to wait until I'm done with school before either of us moves... I had never had a boyfriend before and he had had one girlfriend he was with for a few years in high school... so anyway yesterday he e-mailed me asking if I would give him permission to go to a strip club with some of his friends... he said its just "silly fun" and they would go and watch the gilrs dance and drink... so I told him that I didn't really like the idea I think that strip clubs are gross and more for people who are single and don't have someone to love them... I'm not comfortable with my body at all and he's always said how beautiful I am... so I just think if you are happy with the person you are with you don't need to be around other NAKED girls... so since I was making such a big deal about it he decided that he should tell me that him and his cousin went to a strip club a few weeks ago and it was the first time he ever had went to one and he was "fasinated by it" (his words)... so now I'm really upset but then he continues to tell me that he got a lap dance and not just one but two... one being with the girl TOTALLY naked.. he also told me that he had to get a lap dance so he could brag to his friends at work... I'm totally heart broken over this and the thing that makes me the most upset is that he doesn't seem to see the problem or think there is anything wrong with his actions... I don't know what to do I'm so close to breaking up with him but he is the only person I've ever loved and I always thought we would be together forever.. OH and he won't let me pay for anything not even to come see him so he's trying to save so I can go visit so now I wonder how much he actually spent at this strip club that could have been put away for me to come visit.. I want to know if I'm over reacting and being uptight or if I have reason to be so upset... I should also add that he said he wouldn't allow me to go to a male strip club (not that I asked because I'm not interested) and doesn't even like it if I talk to other guys.. the other day I was going to the county fair and he said "make sure you don't talk to any boys" KNOWING what he did a few weeks ago... AHHH I'm so mad.. please help me