So, here is the background on my daughter's father: He only comes around once a year, even tough he is entitled to visits once a month (supervised), he isn't paying child support, and to top it all off when I was 3 months pregnant I found out he is a convicted child molester. Now that she is getting older he wants weekly visits. I feel it would be best for her if his parental rights were revoked by the courts. He doesn't fight to see his two sons' (both by other women) it's only the little girl that he wants visits with... Which of course scares me. I want to do what is best for her and he isn't it. I am not re-married (Nor was I ever married to him) so there isn't anyone to adopt her. I just want him to relinquish his rights, or sign them over to me as the mother. Does anyone know if this is a possibility and how to do so. (I live in Washington State so those are the laws to consider) Thanks for any help...

Terminating parental rights?It may be done in two ways-voluntary/ it is not your case/ and involuntary-you have to go to court and to file his rights to be terminated.But you can prove that it is in the best interest of the child and your daugther will be in danger with him.Buty he has SUPERVISED visitation /notwithstanding how often it is- ones a day,week or month... /and that is the reason for many courts not to allow termination of rights.

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Originally Posted by blueeyestwenty

So, here is the background on my daughter's father: He only comes around once a year, even tough he is entitled to visits once a month (supervised), he isn't paying child support, and to top it all off when I was 3 months pregnant I found out he is a convicted child molester. Now that she is getting older he wants weekly visits. I feel it would be best for her if his parental rights were revoked by the courts. He doesn't fight to see his two sons' (both by other women) it's only the little girl that he wants visits with.... Which of course scares me. I want to do what is best for her and he isn't it. I am not re-married (Nor was I ever married to him) so there isn't anyone to adopt her. I just want him to relinquish his rights, or sign them over to me as the mother. Does anyone know if this is a possibility and how to do so. (I live in Washington State so those are the laws to consider) Thanks for any help......

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I don't blam you

You know I know this is going to piss off a lot of people but it shouldn't I think if a man has to pay support then the mother should have to hold down a job too. Children shouldn't be supporting the parent's it should be the other way around I'm a mommy of 4 beautiful children and just the thought of there dad having to pay me money for them when I help bring them here is crazy my baby's aren't for sale. Im not saying there should be no support I'm saying if a man has to pay then it should have to go in a savings account that way they'll have a fighting chance when they get older they'll have some of there schooling paid for.And if they need clothe's then he should help out.I rather my kid's have a loving family even if mommy and daddy aren't together money should never be a factor when it come's to loving and spending time with are children... I am truly sorry if this make's any one mad but every one's intitled to there own opinion...

Why is he not paying support, take him back to court, get him thrown in jail for back support, He is not paying, so make him.

As for as custody unless he wants to give it up, not very likely

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Originally Posted by brandy_w

You know i know this is going to piss off alot of people but it shouldn't i think if a man has to pay support then the mother should have to hold down a job too. Children shouldnt be supporting the parent's it should be the other way around im a mommy of 4 beautiful children and just the thought of there dad having to pay me money for them when i help bring them here is crazy my baby's aren't for sale. Im not saying there should be no support im saying if a man has to pay then it should have to go in a savings account that way theyll have a fighting chance when they get older theyll have some of there schooling payed for.And if they need clothe's then he should help out.I rather my kid's have a loving family even if mommy and daddy aren't together money should never be a factor when it come's to loving and spending time with are children...I am truely sorry if this make's any one mad but every one's intitled to there own opinion.....

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I said he isn't paying... So who do you think is supporting her.. Santa Clause? No, Me. The question was about his criminal background, not the lack of child support. I do have a job and I do support my daughter. And for the record child support is supposed hold parents responsible for the children they bring into the world. I don't count on his money I don't depend on his money I don't even want it! I just want my daughter to be raised with love and values and for her to be safe from him.

Don't matter if you can pay and support, he is suppose to be paying, so make him pay. Why do you wish to cheat her out of her money she is suppose to be getting, get it and put it away for her for college or something if you want.

But you can get and keep supervised visits, but if he wants to visit there is little you can do about it.

[QUOTE=Fr_Chuck]Don't matter if you can pay and support, he is suppose to be paying, so make him pay. Why do you wish to cheat her out of her money she is suppose to be getting, get it and put it away for her for college or something if you want.

I do have a savings account for her, and I do HER child support in it when he does pay. I also match that amount (plus more). I understand that it is money for her. I just think if comes down to money of safety I choose safety.
But I do love that you always point out that the support is for the child, not the parent I totally agree.

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Originally Posted by brandy_w

i think if a man has to pay support then the mother should have to hold down a job too. Children shouldnt be supporting the parent's it should be the other way around ...I am truely sorry if this make's any one mad but every one's intitled to there own opinion.....

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You are entitled to your opinion, but it would help if your opinion dealt with the facts. Child Support exists to help pay the expenses of raising a child. It does not pay the custodial parent's expenses. If you were aware of how much is actually paid in child support you would see its not enough to cover living expenses for two people.

A parent's job is to take care of their children. A parent might need to stay home and take care of the child and might not be able to hold down a job because of a child's age.

Those are just two facts that your diatribe fails to take into account. I could go further but that's more than enuf.

So back to the initial question... In Ohio anyway you have a case if the father has been absent for 6 months, that means no contact and no child support for 6 months straight. It is then considered abandonment. You can petition to have his rights terminated for that reason. The outcome that is rights actually will be terminated is unlikely though. If you don't have anyone in the wing to adopt the child it most certainly won't be done. The fact that he is a former child molester won't have too much bearing on it either unfortunately, as you already stated, the visitations are supervised... you may be able to fight him wanting the weekly visitation though.

I would contact an attorney in your area, call around there are a lot that offer free consultations and see what they say are your options to ensure the safety of your daughter.

How did the woman ever give the impression that she wanted the child support for herself?. I never even saw her mention anything about not having a job... that rant was a little off topic, and as Scottgem said, full of errors...

I think it will be in your best interest to see an attorney... I don't know that him being a convicted molester will have much bearing unless your daughter were already a victim... sad but true... If you can't get full custody, I would definitely keep fighting for supervised visits and nothing else. I agree with Chuck on you should fight for the child support... at the very least it will keep him in jail and away from your daughter... good luck.

I put I didn't blam her and then I tried to live a question and I guess it didn't work I'm sorry if any one took it the wrong way but the part about the child support wasn't about her it was for me I just wanted to see who all falt the same way I did... Sorry again... im just new to this site and it was my first time living any thing... Maybe I shouldn't have...

I'd be telling him to sign the paperwork to relinquish his paternal rights or you'll be filing for child support and back child support I bet he'll sign then.

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Originally Posted by mcrofoo1

I'd be telling him to sign the paperwork to relinquish his paternal rights or you'll be filing for child support and back child support I bet he'll sign then.

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Its not that simple. Even if the bio father voluntarily relinquishes his rights, the courts don't have to go along.

Well, thanks everyone for your opions and answers. I spoke to an attorney and was told the same thing it says here... My hands are pretty tied.