Hi, I'm 19 and my fiancé is 21 I think I'm pregnant and I 'm going to the doctorr next week... The thing is its like he's a different person.. He quit calling on his breaks like he usually did, and he's coming home a 9:00 and always has some lame excuse when I ask him where he's been he gets very defensive.. And he acts like this whole having a baby thing is know big deal and just won't except it.. he other he found out his bro is getting a divorce and yesterday he told that he hopes that I never cheat on him.. why would he tell me that? Oh we never have sex anymore we did last night I it didn't even last 10 minutes!! It made me feel bad because I felt like I didn't satisfy him.. I don't know he's just acting really strange what do y'all think:confused:

I think two things could be going. 1) He is totally freaking out about the prospect of you being pregnant and what that really means for the two of you or 2) He is cheating on you. Only he can answer what's going on. For your benefit I certainly hope that he is just freaking out and reacting really badly. Best to you honey! Take care of you and that little baby.

It depends on when he starting acting differently... was it after you told him you thought you were pregnant? If so, I would venture to say he is just simply freakin' like most guys do. Like GlindaofOz stated... he is the only one who can give you those answers you are looking for. Try and not let your mind wander... sit down and talk and work through it.

That's just it he won't talk about it I try and ask him how he feels and what he wants to do but he just says I don't know.. and rolls over and goes to bed.. He doesn't want me to keep the baby because he says we aren't ready and no we're not ready but I can handle it and he should too.. It really hurt

How long have you both been together?

It sounds as if he is really worried about being able to raise this baby with you. Are you guys having financial problems? I feel like there is a lot more to what's going on.

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Originally Posted by lilash07

that's just it he wont talk about it I try and ask him how he feels and what he wants to do but he just says I don't know..and rolls over and goes to bed..He doesn't want me to keep the baby b/c he says we aren't ready and no we're not ready but I can handle it and he should too..It really hurt

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OK' he has already told you what the problem is and you don't like the answer.
He does not want that baby. So you need to come to the conclusion that you will be taking care of this child on your own, and move out. Otherwise you are going to be in for a long pregnancy and lots of drama during and afterward.
You cannot make a young man be daddy if he does not want to be, no matter how wrong he is.
I'm a firm believer in if you don't want babies, take every precaution not to make them.

He lives with me and my family

Hello.

It sounds like everything was OK until you told him you might be having his baby. At his age that's a shock, knowing you live with your parents tells me he doesn't have a stable job that can support the baby, that in itself can make him pull away. IN a nut shell he is scared and should be. The question is will he stand up and be a Man or run like a little boy.

I think after you know for sure he will be able to deal with it. Right now everything is up in the air so its hard to deal with a baby and then find out there isn't one.

Don't push to hard until you know for sure. Once you do then its time for him to stand up and deal with it.

Dennis777

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he lives with me and my family

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Well why would he be ready for fatherhood and you two are living with your parents? And you're not married?
Don't pressure him anymore until you find out for sure if you are pregnant or not. If you're not, then start taking some precautions so you don't go through this again until you guys ae in a position to be raising a family.
If you are pregnant, then he has some decisions to make, and so do you. He is not ready for fatherhood and you guys are not living under the best of conditions.
Why he is living with you and your family?

His mother moved to Florida lets just say she has issues... I know it isn't a great situation but its better than some.. We are getting married next summer and we're working towards a place of our own right now.. He has an awesome job and makes good money but none of his family lives here anymore so he's staying with us until we get a home

Give him space

Well dear, if you're not pregnant, use protection until you guys are in a more ideal living situation. And if you are, good luck. I hope he steps up to takes care of his responsibility. And fatherhood is a big one. He will have a wife a new baby and a home to get in order. This is why Pregnancies need to not just happen, they should not be taken lightly. Children are a privilege and a huge responsibility. People should put more thought into the conception of them.

I think he has already told you he isn't ready nor wants to be a father. He is scared stiff at the prospects asbabies re life changing. So let us know if your pregnant or not, and he will have to deal with what happens next.