Does the media affect the trust in your relationship?

Some background: I've been with an awesome guy for over four years now. We have talked about eventually getting married, but nothing in the near future. We have a really great relationship and are very compatible. He is always a gentleman, and has never given me any reason not to trust him. He doesn't check out other women or do anything even remotely suspicious. I would like to think that I trust him 100%. But, seeing things on TV, hearing true stories from friends and even reading people's situation on here about their good relationships gone bad, my mind tends to wander at times.
For instance, if he calls last minute and says he has to finish up stuff at work and won't be home for another hour (which is not a common occurrence). I definitely don't become obsessed with it, but it does cross my mind if he is actually at work. I don't ever accuse him of anything or check up/spy on him either.
Anyway, do any of you have/ever had these thoughts, or am I a bad girlfriend for thinking this way?

Hello.

From a Mans point of view.

Im sure everyone male and female wonders if their Wife / Husband is being honest. If you wonder about it now and then your normal, if your wondering every time it happens then you do have a problem and need to step back and ask yourself why. If he hasn't given you a reason to think he is a cheater then why would you worry about it now. Put your time into doing special things for him and yourself to make things more exciting.

I have an eye opener for you... If you honestly think he isn't looking at the Ladies as they walk past your walking around with blinders on hehehe. If he is breathing he is looking just like Ladies do. We all look and YES we all have a fantasy now and then. We don't act on them but we do have them so use that to spice up what you have. To be honest if we didn't look or always say we don't then I would be thinking that person is hiding something. Most couples I know joke about looking at others, that way is in the open and done with class.

Dennis777

I don't think it makes you a bad girlfriend, it just makes you sound insecure. When someone is not 100% secure in their relationship its easy for other peoples trials to sort of infect their mind. If you truly believe there is no reason to not believe your boyfriend then anytime one of those little thoughts creep into your head I would just say to myself "nope sorry, don't buy that. those are not my thoughts thats other people" then remind yourself how much you trust and love him.

Disclaimer: I am a guy.

This website is depressing. People don't come here to say how nice their husband is or how great their marriage is. Here you will only see the marriages in trouble or the people that shouldn't be married in the first place.

Hang around happily married couples (like myself!) and ask questions of them. Don't hang around the toxic ones and expect to feel good about anything.

:)

Thank you all for your quick and honest answers!
Dennis: (Ironicly that is my boyfriend's name :)) I do understand that he probably does check out other women, but he does not do in front of me and I was just trying to point out that he is a gentleman.
Glinda: I probably should have mentioned that I have a hard time trusting men in general after watching my mom get cheated on by my father several times. Even at the time I knew it was wrong and that she should have left him, but it was not my decision.
Karma: Thank you for the optimism!

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Originally Posted by ashleysb

Glinda: I probably should have mentioned that I have a hard time trusting men in general after watching my mom get cheated on by my father several times. Even at the time I knew it was wrong and that she should have left him, but it was not my decision.

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It might sound trite, but the best way to defend against that is to remind yourself that your boyfriend isn't your father. If your boyfriend has proven that he is one to trust then I would go with that. :)

Until you have definite, concrete evidence to the contrary, give him the benefit of the doubt.

Media?

If I see a robbery in a movie I don't hide in the closet.
If I see a cheater on TV I do not think my GF is in a back alley.
If I see a tragedy on CNN I don't expect it to hit my town.

In my opinion you have anxiety. It may be because you have good instincts
About your relationship and don't want to think about it being real...

OR you have to deal with an irrational tug on you daily.

Either way - I'm sorry.

Does this affect other things?
Have you real reason to suspect?