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  • Aug 20, 2007, 08:55 PM
    Ash123
    DO they love you enough to come back
    Do they love you enough to come back forever?

    Can you answer yes to 7 out of 10 of these?
    This is a very un-scientific list to consider as you ponder your fate.

    If 7 YES's, 70% chance.
    If 8, 80% chance.
    If 9, 90% chance.

    There's no such thing as a sure thing.
    And YOU should be able to answer these YES's about YOURSELF towards THEM in the relationship as well...

    1. Did they like your parents? And you theirs?

    2. Did they often put themselves second
    - and still like themselves (self-esteem)?
    - And support the things that made you happy?

    3. Did they not flirt with others in front of you?

    4. Did they surprise you with things that helped you?

    5. Are they older than 24?

    6. Did they complete a college degree or graduate degree and kept you in their life?

    7. Did you trust them always and they made you feel secure always?
    - Did they avoid lies in your relationship?

    8. Did you date longer than 2 years without them breaking up or bringing it up?

    9. Are their parents married?

    10. Their friends are smart and loyal and they like you too.

    11. Bonus make-up question: Was sex satisfying - but not the #1 thing in your relationship?
  • Aug 21, 2007, 12:13 AM
    stilllearning
    50% for me
  • Aug 21, 2007, 12:42 AM
    mckenzie134
    1. Did they like your parents? And you theirs?

    Yes

    2. Did they often put themselves second
    - and still like themselves (self-esteem)?
    - And support the things that made you happy?

    Yes

    3. Did they not flirt with others in front of you?

    Never

    4. Did they surprise you with things that helped you?

    Sometines

    5. Are they older than 24?

    No

    6. Did they complete a college degree or graduate degree and kept you in their life?

    Yes

    7. Did you trust them always and they made you feel secure always?
    - Did they avoid lies in your relationship?

    Never lied

    8. Did you date longer than 2 years without them breaking up or bringing it up?

    Yes 3 1/2 years

    9. Are their parents married?

    YesHapily married big factor

    10. Their friends are smart and loyal and they like you too.

    Yes

    11. Bonus make-up question: Was sex satisfying - but not the #1 thing in your relationship?

    Unbelievable she said I was 10 out of ten and even when she brole up she still wanted to talk about the sex


    So that gives me 10 yeses that's 100% coming back and she's not back yet... and said she won't be.


    Ash I thinkthis is a great example and I really believe these are correct although what a;so needs to be added is the way in which you handle the break, I did not handle it well and chased her ane kept in contact with her. Which very much decreased my chances. All the above questions I ticked pretty much everybox and the relationship was great but probably pushed her away chasing in the end..
  • Aug 21, 2007, 03:15 AM
    rol
    11 out of 11.

    People can love someone 100 percent but just not want to commit, so sorry I don't think this non scientific survey is of any benefit to anyone.. Sometimes Love is just not enough.

    The only thing it will do is keep people in denial.
  • Aug 21, 2007, 03:17 AM
    rol
    <I did not handle it well and chased her ane kept in contact with her. Which very much decreased my chances.>

    Mc kenzie , stop battering yourself about it,
    You did all you could, if you had been aloof and not answered you would be here today thinking maybe I should have been nicer to her.
    Nothing you did or did not do would have made any difference.

    If she wanted a relationship with you she would be here with you today.
  • Aug 21, 2007, 06:50 AM
    mckenzie134
    Rol I think ashs script is actually correct in some way and what he is atuslly pointing out is some rgings which if you do have in your relationship you would not normally break up so therefore maybe if you do have these above in your relationship for exampole the girl mey just need a little thinking time and will all thes ormally things ill have a better chance for there will be many more good times..
  • Aug 21, 2007, 06:54 AM
    rol
    Well I don't know about that.

    All I know is 'Hope' is not a nice place in which to live, reality land is much better.

    Plus you sound like a lovely guy mckenzie, I think there must be some much better girls out there, plus you are so young... every relationship we have helps us prepare for a much better one.

    By the way Ash , where/how did you come up with this analysis?
  • Aug 21, 2007, 09:28 AM
    Ash123
    Yes, sometimes love is not enough...

    But how we handle the break can be a test...

    Hang in there...

    More soon.

    Love hurts
  • Aug 21, 2007, 11:24 AM
    Jiser
    I am done with love! For now...

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