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My boyfriend and I have recently started having unprotected sex, and now I feel sick sometimes. I have always had a touchy stomach, but it seems to be happening more often recently. I have never actually thrown up when this feeling occurs, and I get my period regularly. Is this something to worry about?
Pregnancy could be an option, but you can't tell that for sure until you miss a period :)
So you are 15 and having unprotected sex? Are you trying for a baby? If so, why? Do you know the risks?
Having unprotected sex = pregnancy, you need to visit your doctor to find out if you are pregnant. If you aren't please get on birth control. In the meantime, please use a condom.
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Originally Posted by J_9
No I am not trying to get pregnant. I was on birth control for a while, but he said it bothered him so I stopped. He says birth control is against his religion.
So does he intend to help you raise a baby then?
Why does it matter to him if you take the birth control? It doesn't do anything to him.
I don't know why it bothers him. He said he would help me raise a baby, possibly because I said that if I got pregnant I would probably have an abortion. He really freaked about that.Quote:
Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
So I would ask him which is the greater sin?
I also notice that this religion he holds so dear doesn't say anything about pre-marital sex... I imagine if his religion was against it he wouldn't be doing it right?
He's a christian so I don't think he is supposed to be doing it... lol but I don't know because I'm notQuote:
Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
Yes I would most certainly say that christianity view pre marital sex as a sin.
He is clearly picking and choosing what he wants to believe.
Now I want you to listen to me here. This is YOUR body. If you get pregnant YOU carry the baby. YOU raise the baby for the rest of your life. This guy may disappear the second you are pregnant. You have a responsibility to yourself to protect yourself and your future. If he doesn't like it too damn bad. You have the right and the responsibility to protect yourself. Please go back on birth control immediately. Do not have unprotected sex with him again. Tell him no sex until there is protection. Believe me raising a baby is hard especially at your age. An abortion is no walk in the park either.
I think I will definitely tell him that we aren't going to have sex any more until he decides to use a condom.
I wouldn't leave it up to him. Get on some birth control. If you feel that you are responsible enough to have sex then you need to be responsible enough to cut your risk. This guy seems like he will feed you nonsense about condoms and will try to convince you to not use them.
You need to respect your body it's the only one you have. You should never let someone else dictate to you how it gets used or treated.
I'm really not trying to preach to you. But its so important to maintain that level of respect for yourself.
He's really not like that. We talked about birth control, and condoms, and then a friend of mine suggested something called like the pull out method? I don't know. But that's what we have been doing. I know I've done a bad job of representing it on here, but we both respect each other a lot. We were dating for almost a year before we even talked about sex. And he's not like a billion years older than me, I'll be 16 in November and he turned 16 a couple months ago.
The pull out method is BAD.
Before a guy ejaculates there is pre-ejaculate that comes out that contains DNA and it can get you pregnant. The only way to be safe, other then no sex, is real birth control.
You sound like a pretty smart girl, so keep those smarts about you.
The pull out method is also called withdrawal. It has a failure rate of 19%, which is not good considering you can get birth control that has a failure rate of less than 1%. Please, do not use this method.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lindsey15
Here is some more information on it for you : Withdrawal : American Pregnancy Association
Another fact, it does not, in any way, protect you against STD's.
STDs arnt really a big concern for us since we were each others firsts and we are faithful to one another. Are they? And I will definitely read that thing on withdrawal
You never know. I don't want to put ideas into your head whatsoever, but you never know what he is doing. I'm not saying he is being unfaithful to you, I'm just letting you know that any slip up can result in an STD.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lindsey15
It is also good to know this for future reference. :)
The pull out method is not a method at all... it does know work. It is not a form of birth control. If he truly respects you then he will let you get back on birth control. You are 15 almost 16 you don't need to be having to raise a child because your boyfriend wouldn't let you use birth control. And you say he loves you, but at 16 the chances of him splitting if you get pregnant are high. Bottom line is that this is your body and you will be left with the consequences. Babies are a wonderful thing when you are ready and trust me you are not ready for one yet. Please get back on birth control and use a condom. And if he gives you the line of it being against his religion, I am sorry I can't buy it. He is christian and I know christians believe pre-marital sex is a sin. Don't let him continue to control you and your choices stand up for your rights.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lindsey15
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