Trying to understand why my girlfriend can't climax
So this is a bit of a story so I hope you all are up for the read, it would help us out tremendously.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, and have been sexually active for the majority of the time. Early on she let me know that she had been infected with HPV a year before meeting me. (Which I had no idea what HPV was at the time, but it has rocked our world in the worst ways possible) but to continue on this HPV eventually gave her pap irregular cell levels so as well before she met me she had to go for surgery which I think was called a collascapy (excuse the spelling). This is where the go inside and scrape the pre cancerous cells from the cervix which is painful and scarring both emotionally and physically.
Now before I go on I should mention that before her surgery she was able to climax during sex even numerous times, as well I myself have never not help my previous partners to climax, trust me I study all the info out there and apply, I’m not the best lover but for the most part I know what I am doing.
After her first surgery once healed she had sex with a partner and found out that she couldn’t climax. This is where the problem lies. After ending that relationship her and I met 6 months later, at this point I as well haven’t been able to make her climax. Within the time we have been seeing each other she has had to have the same surgery a second time.
Now here is the little bit of info that she has told me about when we have sex, when we do have sex she does feel satisfaction, just not an orgasm. When I stimulate her citreous and g-spot she does feel the different intensities, she can feel the build of the orgasm but then according to her it just suddenly stops, from what can tell the few moments that she does get close it is very intense. But what I also notice is that her eyes are closed and she is concentrating, which she also ahs admitted to, thinking and concentrating on the feeling.
Now in my own opinion if she has the sensations and comes close to climax then I believe that it is a mental block, due to the stress that come with this, she has told me she has begun to lack the desire to have sex as well she feels useless and like she lets me down. Now I try to re assure her that none of this lets me down in any sort of way.
Is there anyone out there with the same problem, and has anyone made a breakthrough?