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Hey all
I met this guy when I was 7 and I became best friends withhis hole family,
And then me and him became close just little kids stuff,
Then when I was about 13 we had a major fight and I lost all contact with his family and they all moved out.
Then his dad moved bac in and then about yr later the youngest sister came bac to live with her dad.
We became best friends and just after mt 15 b'day her brother came bac and straight away all my feelings from before came bac.
Then I moved away so every weekend I went over to there house and I thought he liked me to couse he was always kissing me and fooling around with me(no sex).
Then when I asked him out he said no, so I accepted it and then the nxt weekend I thought everything was going to be different but things stayed the same.
I was to scared to talk to him about it so I left it and this carryed on for the whole yr then it came to my b'day in dec and I told my bestfriend(his sis).
I wanted to loose my varginaty(dont no how to spell it).
Then on christmas day I got a call from them inviting me over on boxing day for dinner and then he hoped on the phone and asked me if I wanted to have sex with him.
I thought all my dreams had came to true finnaly and I said yes so it all happened that night and I was so scared didn't no what to.
Then didn't see him for a month or so and then I went over and he was there and he said I was so crap and all thiss stuff and I said didn't really care but it hurt and then when I dropped him off at the bus stop he kissed me good bye just as everything was normal.
I didn't see him for mayb 2-3 months and then I saw him on the train and we kissed and talked like everything was normal and then kissed good bye.
I haven't spoke to him since and its now been 4-5 yrs thought I would have got over him by now but I'm not really sure if I am.
I don't feel like I'm still in love but if I saw him I'm not sure if those feelings would come bac either.
Can some one tell me how to get over him and move on or if I should find him and sort things out because I don't no what to do??
When I was with him he made me feel soooooooo special just by knowing he was near me.
Now been with my boyfriend for 4yr's n it is completely different I do love him but it's just not the same, I don't get the feeling inside me as I did with my ex it's weird can you love more then one person.?

Hi,
It would help in reading your post, if you would use "sentences", like using a . (period) once in a while... like just hit the . Key, hit Enter.
I am sorry that things are so confusing, and first, I would like to say:
KEEP your virginity for as long as you possibly can.
National TV news reported an alarming fact that is:
40% of all girls in the US are pregnant before they are 20 yrs old!
Do you want to be one of them??
There is no 100% guaranteed contraceptive method on the market today!
There is a chance you will become pregnant; regardless of what you or he uses!
Now, with that said, I hope you wait until much later to lose your virginity.
You CAN get over him.; how?
By meeting new people. Force yourself to get together others, meet new boys and girls. There is boy out there for you. But, he isn't it!
Love does hurt, but you can overcome it. Meet new people, and it will not be long before you are thinking of other things, instead of thinking about him.
Best of luck,
fredg

I am trying the move on I been with my boyfriend for 4yrs and still trying so can't just move on and yes I am one off those percentages but I don't care about that because it's the best thing in my life that's happined to me

Answer this question. Do you want him or do you want the same experience of sweet anxiety that you felt with him ?

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Originally Posted by Tony2005

Answer this question. Do you want him or do you want the same experience of sweet anxiety that you felt with him ?

Really to be honest I'm not 100% on that but in pretty sure its just the feeling I won't.

It happens that when we are young, we crave to be in love, crave to feel that sweet anxiety with someone special. And we also cherish those little moments when you cry in pain but you experience bliss inside. These things happen to everybody when they are young. Maturity tells us to move on and things begin to change a bit which is usually not desirable. However, as you grow, you wise-up. You tend to get busy in life and don't have enough time to sit back and wonder how little things in life can make us so happy and joyful. Yes, maturity has its advantage and disadvantage. You got mature so you are unable to be a small sweet girl who would love to experience sweet anxiety and this is what is troubling you more. You are thinking that maybe if he comes back in your life, your good old days will come back. You know those good old days won't come back again because you have become mature. Just move on with your present life and try to find those little cute moments with your boyfriend.

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Originally Posted by Tony2005

It happens that when we are young, we crave to be in love, crave to feel that sweet anxiety with someone special. And we also cherish those little moments when you cry in pain but you experience bliss inside. These things happen to everybody when they are young. Maturity tells us to move on and things begin to change a bit which is usually not desirable. However, as you grow, you wise-up. You tend to get busy in life and don't have enough time to sit back and wonder how little things in life can make us so happy and joyful. Yes, maturity has its advantage and disadvantage. You got mature so you are unable to be a small sweet girl who would love to experience sweet anxiety and this is what is troubling you more. You are thinking that maybe if he comes back in your life, your good old days will come back. You know those good old days won't come back again because you have become mature. Just move on with your present life and try to find those little cute moments with your boyfriend.

Thanks sooooooo much that's makes sooooo much sense to me, I'm going to be so happy now thanks again

Hi there,
When we're young we're confused, we don't know what we won't, and so goes the confusion about feelings and life itself.
I think you felt so secure with that guy because he was your childhood best friend and you loved him since being so little, the family fight that happened and changed your lives both of you but you kept talking about how you felt about him, what about him, how did he feel about you? You seems to have been after him, asking about him, worrying and all that kind of stuff, what about him?
I think you should have waited for the right person to lose your virginity for, it is very important because we always remember the person with whom we lost it, don't you think it's worth giving it to the person you'll spend your life with? Because he'll always be there, I don't know but all I can tell you is that this guy doesn't deserve you because look how much you cared for him and was ready to do so much but he didn't want you, just remember that he didn't want you and stop thinking about him by investing that time in thinking about the person in your life now, when we don't hget what we won't we always cry over it, but that's life, you moved on with your life so should your heart, just close that page and be happy and stop worrying and comparing your relationships with other men to him, he was not perfect!
Good luck

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Originally Posted by notre dame

Hi there,
When we're young we're confused, we dont know what we wont, and so goes the confusion about feelings and life itself.
I think you felt so secure with that guy because he was your childhood best friend and you loved him since being so little, the family fight that happened and changed your lives both of ya but you kept talking about how you felt about him, what about him, how did he feel about you? you seems to have been after him, asking about him, worrying and all that kinda stuff, what about him?
I think you should have waited for the right person to lose your virginity for, it is very important because we always remember the person with whom we lost it, dont you think it's worth giving it to the person you'll spend your life with? because he'll always be there, I dont know but all I can tell you is that this guy doesnt deserve you because look how much you cared for him and was ready to do so much but he didnt want you, just remember that he didnt want you and stop thinking about him by investing that time in thinking about the person in your life now, when we dont hget what we wont we always cry over it, but thats life, you moved on with your life so should your heart, just close that page and be happy and stop worrying and comparing your relationships with other men to him, he was not perfect!
Good luck

Wow you are really good this stuff, yeah he never told me how he felt towards me, but he also never said no when I came bac either.
But ye your true he don't deserve me and I will get over it.
I'm just afraid not to feel it again because it is pretty good feeling.
Any way thanks soooooooo much for this

Sweetie, if you do not know how to spell the word virginity, then by all means you should hold on to it until you know how to spell it, know the definition, and use the word in a complete sentence.
I would like to think that my body is the most wonderful thing that the world has ever known, and giving my body to someone that I only see once every 6 months, just would not be worth my time. I was your age once and the very same feelings that you have for that one guy, you will be surprised at just how many times you will have that feeling for another guy. What I am trying to tell you is that, you have time. What you are feeling right now, if it is as real as you say it is, then it will be there until you are mature enough, strong enough, and smart enough to make the better choice for you and your lovely young body!

Hey all thanks for all the reply's no need for anymore I was confussed but I'm OK now.
And for all who keeps saying keep you virginity read it all again can't keep something that I don't have, I made another comment telling about my life now.
Big thanks to tony and notre dame you guys helped out heaps.
Love sheema