Masturbation affecting sex life.
I've been living with my boyfriend for about 4 months now. Everything was great for about the first week. We had tons of great sex, but shortly after that I realized his sex drive declined significantly. At first I was really upset, thinking he'd gotten bored of it all after only a week, but I quickly realized that it was because he was masterbating that he wasn't quite as interested in sex. After a few weeks we talked about it and he started making more of an effort towards giving me more sex (I have a high sex drive), but didn't cut back at all on the masturbation. The problem is that he masterbates nearly every single day, and it's always the very instant I fall asleep, or hop in the tub, it's as if he's waiting for the chance at every moment. The very worst part of it is that since he masterbates constantly, when we have sex he can only stay hard for about 15 minutes or a half hour (and doesn't c*m), and since I complained about it, instead of stopping when he's losing his hard on, he keeps trying and trying to keep having sex and it really makes it horrible. It's great for the first 15-30 minutes, but after that it's another hour of damn near torture of his trying to f**k me half hard and wanting head (which isn't sexy to me when he's half flaccid). I explained this all to him, as unaccusatory as possible and in nicer words, and he seemed to understand. He told me that he would rather f**k me then masterbate so he didn't know why he was masterbating anyway. He actually stopped masterbating and the sex was fantastic again. We'd both be into it the whole time, and would both actually get to orgasm. That only lasted for a week though. Once I got my period, 20 minutes after my flow started he jumped over to the computer to masterbate, even though we'd had sex an hour before. I got pissed (was offended) and his excuse was that I was bleeding so I shouldn't be mad. I was still pretty offended I mean he could have waited until I fell asleep or something and kept it to himself.. lol. But I let it go. Unfortunately it seemed that during the 4 days of my period he masterbated the whole time, and didn't stop once my period was over. So now were back to the horrible sex. And the worst part is were fighting over it a lot, and now he won't seem to bend on the issue. He says that I'm stuck up, and a b**ch etc. because I don't want him to masterbate but he knows that's not what it's about. I've told him probably a dozen times that I wouldn't care if he jacked off 6 times a day if only he could still keep an errection when he had sex with me. I understand the need to masterbate, I mean I do it to and he knows about it. So now he's calling me a hypocrite, but the funny part is I wouldn't be masterbating myself if he'd give me some good sex. So I'm so lost on how the hell to fix this. The last week or so I haven't been fighting w/ him at all, but unfortunately not fighting w/ him means he tries to have sex w/ me and like I said it sucks horribly. He can tell I'm not into it, but he keeps going to prove a point, that he can masterbate as normal and still f**k me, but he can't.
He's been getting really nasty w/ me over the issue but still constantly assuring me that he's attracted to me and wants to have sex w/ me, but it just doesn't seem like it. Before I mentioned anything about this to him, we hardly had sex because he'd taken care of himself. Now it seems like he's having sex w/ me to avoid the argument. So anyway I am lost, pissed, horney, and unsatissfied, does anyone know anything that could help? I've tried talking to him but every time I do he flips out and doesn't want to talk about it..
