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  • Aug 18, 2007, 07:25 PM
    serena6878
    Why don't many people cherish what they have now
    Why do people keep in contact with other one in letters or calls when they are dating or after they are married? They are giving themselves and other women or men chances to destroy what they are having now.

    Why do people forget sadness of the persons close to them and care about the person far away? I doubt some people's sadness because some people don't know how to respect others' union and so don't know the real meaning of sadness. Why don't people believe the one who is holding hands with them now is the one loving them devotedly.

    Why do so many break ups and divorces? Why don't people cherish what you already have?

    Is one person in another's life not enough? Is a ever-lasting life commitment that difficult? Could people take their eyes off those who are standing by happy and innocent women? Could we cherish only one in the world?

    Please...
  • Aug 18, 2007, 11:07 PM
    Clough
    Hello, serena6878!

    What is happening to cause you to ask what you are? Is it something having to do with you?

    It is very sad when people don't commit to relationships, especially when they have made promises or vows to each other.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 09:42 AM
    serena6878
    Hi Clough
    Nothing really happens on me. But I saw some young ladies look strangely at some guys who already have girlfriends. I don't like those kind of ladies. They are immoral!
    Also, I think men should focus on his family and don't care about other women.
    I stick to my life values.

    I wish everything is fine on you.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 01:52 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    But I saw some young ladies look strangely at some guys who already have girlfriends. I don't like those kind of ladies. They are immoral!
    How can you tell what people think by their looks, and that they are immoral?
    Quote:

    Also, I think men should focus on his family and don't care about other women.

    Okay what has brought on all these profound feelings??
  • Aug 19, 2007, 06:56 PM
    serena6878
    talaniman,
    Thanks for your attention.
    I think it is my silliness that brought on all these simple feelings, but I don't think you understand my feeling. And you don't have to.
    Thank you for answering questions and do your best to help many people here.
    I hope you are doing fine, always :>
  • Aug 19, 2007, 07:28 PM
    mooneyes412
    I've only been married for a little over 4 months but I hope with my experiences I can help maybe just a little. I feel that sometimes they keep intouch with ex's because it boosts their ego. (This of course is not always the case). If they were friends before things got serious with the two of you and you trusted the friendship then keep trusting. If something happened between them since ya'lls relaionship then, them having a friendship should be totally out of the question. (in my eyes anyway.)

    I think that if your's is astraying to comfort someone else and knows it is hurting you, then putting your foot down is definatley the answer. Explain to this person that they are hurting you and, you above all other persons they should comfort.

    I firmly believe that there is only one explination for this question... there are a lot of break ups and divorses because both people did not want it to work. Both people have to want it. One person alone cannot keep a relationship together. You need to understand that you are good enough. Good enough to be loved how you should be loved. And if someone in your life can't or won't give that to you then, well, maybe they shouldn't be in you life. I myself didn't get married to get divorsed. So if you fell the same way, you have to fight for what you want. Good luck sweety.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 07:47 PM
    serena6878
    Thank you, mooneyes.
    You are right.
  • Aug 20, 2007, 02:18 AM
    Marily
    I think that if two people honestly love one another they will present the best of themselves to eachothe each other, communication, honesty and trust is vital for a relationship to grow. A lot of peoples reasons differ from why they don't show any affection towards one another, but I believe that everyone needs to be love and respected
  • Aug 20, 2007, 02:44 AM
    cal823
    You can't help who you fall in love with.
    You can't help who you fall out of love with.
    Marriage should be for love, if you get married, and then fall out of love perminatly, well, what's the point of holding to people together who feel no love for each other, when they can go out and find someone they do love?

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