I dated this guy for 1yr4months,I liked him very much & I thought he felt the same way from his attitude,sometimes we got along well, most times when we don't it gets really bad we quarrel and won't call or see each other for more than a week and I`l end up being the mature one by calling and trying to get back.guess he took dt as my weakness and used it against me.took a lot of trash from him,overpampered hm.the peak of it was that.he wasn't there when I need him the most when a close relative died,someone he knew I was very close to.when I told him he wasn't really there like I wanted him too,he got annoyed and didn't call me for like 4days even during that mourning period.I finally called as usually only for him to still be giving me his silly attitude all in the name that he was annoyed.at that instance I got tired and fedup of the whole thing and brokeup with him over the phone(even though I knew that wasn't proper)i was even crying when I did it. He called mi a thousand times dt day, called me 10 times d next day.and never called me again not even a text message. Called ma friends several times trying to find out about my welfare,and tried to justify his actions for not calling,said he called but I didn't pickup.that he still felt bad about me breakingup with him over the phone dt it meant I didn't like him and there was someone else.its been 4 months nw & I haven't heard from him nt even a call or a text message.still like him very much,feel guilty about breaking up,may be if I was patient enough things would have worked out well.saw someone dt looks like him today & my heart skipped 10 beats.should I call,or wait for him 2(which I doubt) or forget about everything& move on?

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Originally Posted by a1b2

i dated this guy for 1yr4months,i liked him very much & i thought he felt the same way from his attitude,sometimes we got along well, most times wen we dont it gets really bad we quarrel and wont call or see each other for more than a week and i`l end up being the mature one by calling and trying to get back.guess he took dt as my weakness and used it against me.took alot of trash from him,overpampered hm.the peak of it was that.he wasnt there when i need him the most wen a close relative died,someone he knew i was very close to.when i told him he wasnt really there like i wanted him too,he got annoyed and didnt call me for like 4days even during that mourning period.i finally called as usually only for him to still be giving me his silly attitude all in the name that he was annoyed.at that instance i got tired and fedup of the whole thing and brokeup with him over the phone(even though i knew that wasnt proper)i was even crying when i did it. He called mi a thousand times dt day, called me 10 times d next day.and never called me again not even a text msg. called ma friends several times trying to find out about my welfare,and tried to justify his actions for not calling,said he called but i didnt pickup.that he still felt bad about me breakingup with him over the phone dt it meant i didnt like him and there was someone else.its been 4 months nw & i havent heard from him nt even a call or a text msg.still like him very much,feel guilty about breaking up,may be if i was patient enough things would have worked out well.saw some1 dt looks like him today & my heart skipped 10 beats.should i call,or wait 4 him 2(which i doubt) or forget about everything& move on?

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Since it has been 4 months and you have not heard from him, I would assume he has moved on. If you really care for him and if you think you can make things work between you two a simple phone call wouldn't hurt.

I don't know about that, 4 months is not that long to assume he has moved on. From experience I would talk to my ex-girl even now and it has been about 3 months, she may think because I have not contacted her that I have moved on and don't care BUT I DO! Its just you don't call because of not wanting her/him to think that you miss them and haven't moved on.

HOWEVER, I think if he called after 4 months than the least that can be done is call him or message him back. DO NOT assume its to get back together, just call and see whatthe original call was for, go from there. But CALL, give the guy some credit for reaching out:)

Assume one thing only and keep saying this over and over to yourself; Do I want to be a mature fool or a maturing woman.

Don't worry about him he doesn't deserve someone like you. You sound like a really nice girl and you don't have to take that kind of but if you still love him maybe one call can answer all your questions.

Hi a1b2
I would say from his actions previously this guy doesn't deserve you anyway. How could you not be beside the one you loved when they have a tragedy. When he was calling you the day after you dumped him he would have been trying to convince you to change your mind because his pride/ego was hurt , nobody likes to be the dumpee!! But he certainly dodn't seem to pursue that for too long. He's now been gone for 4 months so I would suggest seeing as you have gone through the initial pain of the breakup I would let sleeping dogs lie. He seems to have moved on and I would suggest you do the same. Find someone who deserves you. I wish you luck!