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  • Aug 15, 2007, 11:47 PM
    Becca74
    When is the best age to.
    When do you think is the best age to start dating? Lol weird question but I'm just asking and I mean like real dating not that puppy dog faking stuff...
  • Aug 15, 2007, 11:52 PM
    AKaeTrue
    Call me old fashioned, but considering sex could be involved with anything other than the puppy dog fake stuff, I say 17.5/18 years old... ;)
  • Aug 15, 2007, 11:57 PM
    sGt HarDKorE
    The best time to start is when your ready and comfortable.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 12:12 AM
    Clough
    First, when your parents say that it's okay. Second, when you and your parents agree that you are wise enough to take responsibility for your own actions. This could be anywhere from about age 16/17 on up.

    That is my opinion, anyway. I'm sure that there will be others who will contribute their own opinions also.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 05:16 AM
    nicespringgirl
    Depends on what you focus on your own life,what your goal is and what kind of "dating" you are talking about...

    Always be responsible and rational, don't fall for no reason.

    I can't say there is an age thing, but when it's the right time you will know it. NO NEED TO RUSH!:)

    P.S. U don't have to be like everyone else, be yourself. Don't do it because others all have a bf/gf!
  • Aug 16, 2007, 05:40 AM
    ScottGem
    If we are talking about one on one dating, no earlier than 14. Possibly later depending on how mature your parents think you are.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 05:54 AM
    LearningAsIGo
    16 or 17 for group dates. (Parents drop you off at the movie theater and pick you up at the movie theater--no alone time ;) )

    18 for one-on-one dates.

    My opinion is based on life experience by the way. I started dating too young and it put me in situations that were difficult to deal with.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 06:37 AM
    hilaryfortnum
    48.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 06:57 AM
    xxbeefyxx
    I think that you will start to date when the time is right when you've found the right person and when you are ready
  • Aug 16, 2007, 07:58 AM
    Dennis777
    Hello.

    Maturity is the bigest factor. I know 15 year olds that can use the word NO and mean it. I also know 20 year olds that can't say NO if in a group that's doing what they all know is wrong.

    In my day we called going out alone as car dates. That means one person had a car and no parents where around. In most cases at 16 your ready but you also need to start small. No long dates until you have proved that you will be back on time and do what you said you would be doing.

    Dennis777
  • Aug 16, 2007, 08:01 AM
    nicespringgirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hilaryfortnum
    48.

    Will you please explain your data?
  • Aug 16, 2007, 08:02 AM
    BMI
    If you're a girl 23, if you're a guy 10.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 08:13 AM
    xxmissconfusedxx
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by sGt HarDKorE
    The best time to start is when your ready and comfortable.

    I couldn't agree more.
    When you feel like your ready for such a big step
  • Aug 18, 2007, 12:54 AM
    Clough
    Quote:

    Capuchin agrees: Good advice. Glad to see that the grocer's apostrophe is still alive and well :)
    Hey, Cap! I resemble that remark! :D
  • Aug 18, 2007, 06:58 AM
    MOWERMAN2468
    16 or 17 years old is plenty early enough.
  • Sep 7, 2007, 11:47 PM
    eggplant099
    I agree with everyone who's saying to wait until you're mature and responsible, and when your parents agree that you are mature and responsible, and not to go with anyone or into any situations that make you uncomfortable. That being said, think about this: "real" dating doesn't start of nowhere, instead it may start as a friendship or casual dating and over time mature and blossom into a serious relationship. Therefore, don't rush or put too much pressure on yourself, the another person, or a given dating situation--enjoy the friendships and crushes and the fun and stomach butterflies that come with them, and look forward to what they may become.

    Now, it should be said that NO MATTER what age you are, it is very important that you are comfortable with who you're dating and with your surroundings, and to always look out for your safety. Don't go out with someone you don't feel comfortable with just because you want to date, and don't enter into situations that make you feel uncomfortable or rushed sexually in any way. You have the right to have complete control over who you date, what you feel ready to do, and at what point in your relationship you feel comfortable doing it. Anyone who robs you of that control in any way doesn't respect you, and no healthy, serious, loving relationship can exist without respect.
  • Sep 8, 2007, 04:30 PM
    MOWERMAN2468
    After college and your career is started, umm about 25?
  • Sep 8, 2007, 05:30 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Well I did'nt not let my daughter date until she was 16 and then it was only group dating. Think back on it though. I don't think you ought to date until you're 18 or out of college.
    Dating takes your mind off what is important and then you end up getting dumped or used or pregnant or heartbroken, then you're asking questions on message boards all of the time when you should be studying and preparing for the future.
  • Sep 8, 2007, 06:06 PM
    nicespringgirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
    Well I did'nt not let my daughter date until she was 16 and then it was only group dating. Think back on it though. I don't think you ought to date until you're 18 or out of college.
    Dating takes your mind off of what is important and then you end up getting dumped or used or pregant or heartbroken, then you're asking questions on message boards all of the time when you should be studying and preparing for the future.

    Homegirl, wanted to spread some love but the systems said no.:o
    I agree with you 100%! And I also agree with MOWERMAN2468. I personally have never really dated, I am planning on start it when I reach 25. By that time, I should have well established and ready to meet someone who is also mature and well established.:)
  • Sep 8, 2007, 06:22 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You're a smart young lady, nicespringgirl. I'm always happy to see young people with their heads on straight

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