Originally Posted by Lou Dave
Is there any law in Illinois that provides for a wife and natural son when the husband/ father only thinks of himself(and yes, even schemes to ruin his family?) I work in the same plant as my father. I'm 19 and he's 55. He's been there 4 years longer than me, so he makes even more. Over 34k- not a lot until you realize my mom and me have no health, car, life insurance, house insurance, cable, garbage bill, gas bill or water bill. (oh and my mom paid 156k cash for the 2500 sq ft house we live in from her inheiratance.) My mom used to work full time, but she lost so many jobs, because as soon as she got one, my dad would say his car was broke, or he forgot to pay the car insurance, or his plates were over due, or he was too tired,that my Mom had to drive him up and back to work, 30 miles each way or he wouldn't go. Without her working f/t its impossible to find a retail job that gives free health insurance. She got in an accident driving him to work, and he wouldn't pay for the accident or fines 'cause it wasn't his license. She got an old sedan from a friend for $200.00 and then my dad said his car was too good to subject to downtown traffic. He dropped his insurance and refuses to let us drive his car even for groceries. He used hers and totaled it when he hit a safety rail. It sat in the impound for 4 weeks, my ma coundn't pay the towing so she signed the titile over the the tow company. My dad , never even traded in his old car, just kept it and got himself a new one and insurance, for (one month) he uses the insurance card to "show" he has proof of insurance, even though he never paid past month one. He gives my ma $100.00 a week to buy clothes, food for the three of us, her medication(she has COPD) pay the repairs on appliances, medical bills and house insurance everything. Needless to say she can't even afford clothes and hers are so warn from the resale shop they have holes in them. Without her medication, my ma has bad asthma, can't breath, and often is just wheezing at the kitchen table. She can wash the clothes but puts them over the shower curtain to dry. (He won't replace the dryer, cause he takes his clothes for dry cleaning. ) My dad gets custom made dress shirts, thou he wears jeans to work. He buys purebred horses, tractors, and spends most of his time in adult shops/bars. My mom knows there needs to be a divorce, I know it to- For the first time in 6 years we have a real phone in the house, thanks to me, (he has his own cell phone were not allowed to use.) I buy my mom one or two things a week with my check and buy the food I'll eat during the week. I don't mind paying the phone bill or the taxes on the house but isn't there some law that says he should at least pay for her food and emergency visits to the clinic here, and pay for her clothes ? She has been there 3 times in the last sixth months, and they keep billing her for stuff, but she can't pay. She can't get public aid 'cause my dad makes way too much. He doesn't have any bank account, checking account or credit cards- (he sleeps with his wallet), and now says if I don't drive him to work, he can't go and make enough to give my mom her lousy $100.00 bucks. When I do drive him, he's always stopping at stores buying himself stuff, and after work takes just everyone from work to breakfast, but has me pay my own. What would you suggest? She can't drive, since she lost her license, and with the taxes for such a nice house so high, I'm broke for the next couple months. We do have the house up for sale, but my dad does really nasty things just before the agent comes to show the house and it smells lke 20 cats have used it as a litter box, (which they have). Then he justs laughs and says we'll never sell it.We don't have any family left effect for his, and they disown him after he didn't pay some money back he borrowed. If you were my ma, what would YOU DO-?