6 months ago, I "broke up" with a great girl in a long distance relationship. We were together for 8 months, all long distance. I bought her a teacup yorkie, treated her right for the most-part, and yes I have a temper, but all people do. She started pissing me off towards the end, so to try to get her to start making me feel more important to her, I broke up with her three times within two weeks. ( for like 5 hours, then I called her back saying sorry) Hoping she would look inward, and say " why does he keep breaking up with me, maybe I should change a little?". The third time she said she wanted space. I WENT CRAZY! Now she said she only wants to be friends! :confused:

I LOVE this girl, Ive been miserable for 6 months, She's in med school, very smart, beautiful, and I want her to stop dating other guys.

She keeps telling me she wants to be " FRIENDS"? Is that? How and Why can she just act like we never had anything?

I try the "friend thing" for a few weeks, then find out she's dating and go nuts on her... she says she doesn't want me back because I will never "change."

I can't figure out what to do with this girl, She tells me that we were "Nieve" and that we don't know what love is? Then I go nuts on her again...

If I leave her alone for 3 weeks, she calls me again... wanting "friendship" then tells me about things like she's looking forward to moving to Washington DC when she graduates MED school and can't wait to start a family... What do I do with this girl?


Ive been driving myself insane, calling her, telling her I love her, that I miss her, We are worth figuring all this out... most of the time its all in voicemails, she doesn't answer my calls.


When Im NICE,. she ignores me, and after I'm ignored for a week or two, I blow up on her for Ignoring me,. GUESS WHAT, then she calls me, saying "this is why we can't be together....youre an immature a-hole..... HOW SICK IS THAT!

She says I need to "grow" - how lame is that? We've been going in circles for months!


PLEASE HELP! - Marc

I'm going to agree with your ex and say that you do need to grow up. First you were passive-aggressive by trying to force change on her by ending your relationship. Then you repeatedly admit to having anger issues.

You should seek to change your deficiencies as they are the only ones you can control. You can't make other people change and all you've done is damage your relationship with this girl to the point where she is not ready to consider anything more with you.

Your ex is right to leave you for better things and you should take it as a warning to solve the many issues you have. With out help I think all your future relationships will end just as this one did. Do yourself a favor and get some help.