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going limp during sex

Ok I'm 17 and the other day I was having sex in an out doory kind of not so private area... and we were doing are thing I was hard but then as we go along it seemed like I was harder at times then others... then as we were going it just went dead for no reason... this has never happened to me before... but I've never finished during sex... I go a really long time... I sometimes get random hard on's also when I think about sexual activitys... I masterbait quite abit to pornografy or even just thoughts in my head just takes longer... the only way a girl has ever gotten me off was with a hand job... I also take phills at times... but the ones that are perscribed to me are anti-depressants... so if any of you guys have any ideas I would apreasate it
Justin

Masturbating regularly actually makes it a little softer I've noticed. There used to be times when my became so hard it was physically painful - I could've smashed rocks with it. But I've noticed it's not as hard as before.

Simple remedy - stop beating off. It reduces excitement because you've seen most of it all in porn if you get what I mean.

Ok I don't really get soft at all when I masterbait... and the physical pain I have had before as well and still do from time to time... but I understand what you mean but over stimulating... so how long do you think I should stop? Or should I just stop all togeather.

It may be a side-effect of the anti-depressant. Check the prescribing info. Do a search for "<drug name> physician prescribing information" and look for side effects.

Ive never comed during sex either, but I don't take any medications. I can go a long time also. I go soft before I come from sex. I did masturbate a lot to pornography but I cut way back on that.

Actually I finally finished... took a lot of consitration and force... lol but I finished... man did it feel good... didnt go soft... but it seems like when switching positions it gose soft quite quick... any ideas anybody?

Any advice punk rock as to my problem?

Well... what do you like privacy... or being adventurious? Me and her went to a creek bed when it was becoming night... fully clothed... and I just let her be on top the whole time... so maybe that might work for you who knows?lol

Damn do I no how you feel, I'm 15 been with my girl for 3 years and recently I've been getting limp while having sex as well, and while receiving oral sex it just stays limp, maybe someone here could help me out with my problem as well

Just to let you know it sometimes takes quite sometime to get an answere... but my q is... has she been doing anything different?

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Originally Posted by punkrock58

i also take pills at times...but the ones that are perscribed to me are anti-depressants....so if any of you guys have any ideas i would apreasate it
Justin

Talk to your doctor about this problem, anti-depressants often cause erectile problems. See if he can prescribe an anti-depressant that does not have this side effect.

If you guys use condoms as your protection maybe that could be the problem. My boyfriend had the same problem when we used condoms. He would lose his erection while hacing sex. Now that I have been on birth control for a long time he hasn't had that problem. I guess he just wasn't getting enough stimulation with the condom.

Also... I am in NO way suggesting you don't use a condom! But if you are with the same girl maybe she and you could talk about a different form of birth control?

Were you standing up in the outdoor arena? Maybe get your blood pressure checked after standing and doing exercise. I think you MAY have a pressure problem.

Well I'm off the meds for sometime now... and no I wasn't standing or anything... just laying down type deal... but I find that when I have sex... that when I'm out it gose away quite quickly and its hard to get back... any ideas?

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I agree with this because I had the same problem with some medications that are prescribed for stress.

So listen to this, I've never not busted for sex unless I had wacked off or already had sex that day, I got about a one nut limit unless I'm by myself but so I went on vacation I met this girl and we ed on the beach the second night and the only reason we didn't the first night is cause I couldn't get hard, then on the second night I went limp inside her three times! Really embarresing, eventually I got hard enough to bust but how do you get more adventurous then that? And I still had trouble staying hard? I got to stop watching porn and spankin it

Well sometimes what happens an yess it happens to me is that doing sex too much in a row causes you to go limp because its stopping the blood flow to your penis therefore depriving it of oxygen, which also means it can happen when wearing a condom that's too tight I believe, yes stop masterbating because it decreases the fun. Many reasons though or could be psychological if your thinking about going limp an worrying about it you probs will go limp, a number of reasons just relax an try to resist form porn :P Xx

Your 15 and you have been having sex for three years! Where are your parents? You may be experiencing signs of syphilis... is she faithful because whores usually lie. Or you might be experiencing Psychosexual Dysfunction due to your body being too sexually exercised at such a underdeveloped age despite what your hormones may be telling you. Either way you're a moron.

I have the same problem, mentally I really want to have sex and then once I get a boner I put it in and for some reason it just goes soft legit last night it went soft after the first 10 seconds of penetration but I hadn't eaten much that day and I was cranky so I was thinking I just wasn't in the mood but yet I was still horny? I'm confused