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  • Aug 13, 2007, 10:16 PM
    moonlitears
    Trying to find my birth father.
    Ok ive been trying for some time now to find my birth father.. and just feel like.. i can't do it anymore! I dont know have debit card to be using to buy these things online.. and my husband for some reason thinks sites that make you do it will scam him so he wont let me. So ive been trying for about a year now to find him. Its so hard!!
    Heres all i know.. His name is Christopher or Chris Griffey... i really think it might be Chris he goes by and puts on everything.. from well how far i HAVE got on those sites that do cost as much as they let you know. ANYWAY he met my mom in louisville KY were she got pregnant with me and my twin brother Nathaniel. She tells me hes probably from Provo utah cause he went to church there and stuff MORMON church... and went to college as well there. (when doing one of those search that cost.. as much as they would let me know, i found one that was Chris Griffey 55, in provo utah and i really believe its him.. but i guess i wont know unless i pay anyway... he should be about 55.. i dont know his birthdate :( I know he has a sister named Anita (who never wanted to meet us) and a Brother named Mark. He does have a daughter... but i dont know her name.. and its been 20 years so i dont know if hes married.. and had more children. my mom said we met him when we were 3.. but i dont remember.. and im 20 now. He has 2 grandchildren he doesnt know about my son Kole and my daughter Lydia.
    ITs really so frestrating :( trying so hard to find him.. when really shouldnt he want to be finding US!? :( I have no clue if i mentioned it.. but my name is Natalie :) thanks to anyone who reads this long thing and helps, it means alot to me.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 10:30 PM
    Clough
    Have you tried these kinds of searches? Please click on them. There is a Chris Griffey in or from Provo, Utah in the first search. Each search is different, even though they have the same title.

    PeopleFinders.com | People Summary

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  • Aug 13, 2007, 10:45 PM
    moonlitears
    For me though.. it says you have to pay when you click to see details.

    I found a site.. where you have to pay.. where it shows 2 places he lived/lives to make sure it's the right person before you pay.. and it says louisville KY and Provo Utah.. under Chris Griffey.. OMG I know that's him.. it has to be
  • Aug 13, 2007, 10:46 PM
    moonlitears
    BTW.. I found that site, RIGHT after typing this.. lol.. I just have to pay somehow.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 11:45 PM
    Clough
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by moonlitears
    for me though.. it says you have to pay when you click to see details.

    i found a site.. where you have to pay.. where it shows 2 places he lived/lives to make sure its the right person before you pay.. and it says louisville KY and Provo Utah.. under Chris Griffey.. OMG I know thats him.. it has to be
    Yes, you have to pay to have the details shown. But, at least you have a place, age, (usually a year older than they are right now), and other possible relatives. Or, even businesses that they have or in which they have been involved. From these facts you can glean much information as far as contacting someone.

    If the phone number is not unlisted, then you type in the first and last name in a Google search followed by a comma, (or not) and the city (or town) followed by a comma and then the state. An address and phone number should then appear if they have been living in that place for awhile.

    Another thing to try, is to see if there are any court records available online where your birth father is located. Many places have this information available online. Usually, they will also list a birth date for the person.

    Kentucky Court Records

    I didn't find anything for a Christopher Griffey in Jefferson County.

    There is no specific site in Utah that I have been able to find for court records online without some sort of subscription.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 11:55 PM
    Clough
    By the way, I know that you have been using other sites in your search and haven't come up with anything. So, I know that this is a tough one for you and for anyone searching. I hope that you do find him.

    But, I am curious as to why you want to find him? Were you set out for adoption?
  • Aug 14, 2007, 12:24 AM
    moonlitears
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Clough
    By the way, I know that you have been using other sites in your search and haven't come up with anything. So, I know that this is a tough one for you and for anyone searching. I hope that you do find him.

    But, I am curious as to why you want to find him? Were you set out for adoption?

    No, my birth mother raised me.. he just.. after awhile stopped trying to see us.. writing and all that.. and she heard some stuff.. so she just felt we were better off and she stopped trying.. there was a letter I saw that he wrote to my brother because he was sick.. and at the end it said Love, dad. It really made me want to find him.
    Most of all I really would like to meet the rest of my family.. or at least know that I tried.. it would bring a lot of closure to me either way.. even though if he didn't want anything to do with us.. it would hurt but id at least know and stopped questioning it. My mom said some of the family might actually want to.. She knew his sister didn't though when she asked (when she was pregnant with us) if she ever wanted to see us.. she said no, but after years that might have changed.. maybe not.. I just.. really want a final answer I guess you could say lol
  • Aug 14, 2007, 12:55 AM
    Clough
    Thank you for sharing! I hope that you do find him. I know that I would want to do that.
  • Aug 14, 2007, 02:24 AM
    moonlitears
    No problem :) and thank you.
  • Feb 3, 2010, 11:04 PM
    ldubois70
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by moonlitears View Post
    Ok ive been trying for some time now to find my birth father.. and just feel like.. i can't do it anymore! I dont know have debit card to be using to buy these things online.. and my husband for some reason thinks sites that make you do it will scam him so he wont let me. So ive been trying for about a year now to find him. Its so hard!!
    Heres all i know.. His name is Christopher or Chris Griffey... i really think it might be Chris he goes by and puts on everything.. from well how far i HAVE got on those sites that do cost as much as they let you know. ANYWAY he met my mom in louisville KY were she got pregnant with me and my twin brother Nathaniel. She tells me hes probably from Provo utah cause he went to church there and stuff MORMON church... and went to college as well there. (when doing one of those search that cost.. as much as they would let me know, i found one that was Chris Griffey 55, in provo utah and i really believe its him.. but i guess i wont know unless i pay anyway... he should be about 55.. i dont know his birthdate :( I know he has a sister named Anita (who never wanted to meet us) and a Brother named Mark. He does have a daughter... but i dont know her name.. and its been 20 years so i dont know if hes married.. and had more children. my mom said we met him when we were 3.. but i dont remember.. and im 20 now. He has 2 grandchildren he doesnt know about my son Kole and my daughter Lydia.
    ITs really so frestrating :( trying so hard to find him.. when really shouldnt he want to be finding US!? :( I have no clue if i mentioned it.. but my name is Natalie :) thanks to anyone who reads this long thing and helps, it means alot to me.
    I think I know your Chris griffey, he was working in Salt Lake City at Nana's Bakery! He is secretive and has spent a lot of time behind bars for having sexual relations with a minor. I know he had talked about having kids in Kentucky! Though he never has told me why he left Kentucky! Anyhow, I hope this is a hit for you! I am a sales manager for this big Bakery in Salt Lake, he runs the sanitation department
  • Mar 8, 2013, 10:20 PM
    Lunalie87
    I got really curious tonight and wanted to see all my old post back when I was searching. (a friend is searching for family so it made me curious to see if anyone else responded to my post)
    I don't have my moonlitears account. My ex-husband did delete all my emails along time ago so I don't have anything to even remember how I found him.

    I did however find him. I don't really remember how. I know I had tons of help but all I remember is writing a letter and him responding. I remember a lady helped me and she let me use her P.O. box just in case he wasn't my dad. I did find him in prison.. in salt lake city but for privacy reasons I won't put it up here why.
    We talked a lot. He eventually moved back here to KY. Met him once at my aunts funeral (His sister) She was very helpful in finding my brother and sister from him and his ex wife. I did eventually get to meet them. Which I am grateful for.
    I don't really talk to my dad. This may not be the ending any of us wanted but it is what I am comfortable with. My mother did the right thing when she stopped trying. All though I have had some things happen to me as a child that makes me uncomfortable with older men just made me REALLY uncomfortable with him. Then when I didn't return a call and what not I got a really mean letter handed off to a co-worker to give me to that made me quit talking to him all together.

    I do want to thank everyone for their help! I am forever grateful! Especially to a woman who I can't remember her name but I got an email from her almost every day and she was so helpful! I just want her to know how much she meant to me!

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