Me and my boyfriend finished about 2 months ago. We had no contact until now. He has moved home and I live in a small town and am not going to be able to avoid seeing him.
I saw him last night and we spoke to each other for a while. Just simple conversation and no mention of the relationship. We will become friends but I want to know if there is anything I can do to try and re-attract him.
He is dating other people but none of them are serious. I was the most serious girlfriend he ever had but we broke up and when I look back I can see it is because I was needy, clingy etc.
I am just wondering if there is anything I could do now that we are back in contact with each other.

Hi,
Are you still "needy and clingy"? If you are, it will certainly be seen by him.
If not, just be friends. He will decide if he likes the "new you". That's about all you can do.
If you think you have changed some, then give him a chance to "like" you again.
Best of luck,
fredg

This will take time. BE PATIENT. Show him you've changed.

He will only be part of your life - NEVER make him your whole life.

Don't be totally available to him. You should date as well - jealousy is a powerful thing.

Yes - you have to change - improve yourself - workout, hang with your friends, work hard at work etc.

I want to become friends with him but I want to be careful we don't just become good friends with no potential. How will I do this?

You don't want to go into the 'friend zone' - it's almost impossible to leave.

It's a slippery slope - but be nice to him - but don't totally give him your totally attention if you see him. End calls sooner, end conversations sooner.

Don't be totally available to him.

AND again - improve your life.

From everything I have read here and other places it seems that I have to build a friendship with him and listen to him and understand him etc but I still need to appear indepentant and seem like I do not need anything in return for this friendship.

I want to be the person I was around him before we started going out and at the start of the relationship which should be all right to do but what is it I have to do to appear independent etc.
We were friends before we started going out so if I am able to build this friendship what is it I have to do to appear independent etc.
He was very dependent on me at the beginning of our relationship. Do I try and get him to become dependent on me again yet seem really independent myself?

I do not want him to think I am building a friendship to try and get him back. What are all the things I can do/say to make it seem like this? (excluding dating other people which I will do but there will be a times when we hanging out together that no other dates will be involved)

Take your time. Don't rush into this. Pull back a little. It's OK a few days or even a week or two goes by with out seeing him.

You're trying build a relationship here.

Be nice to him, but totally available to him.