I have been raising my sisters oldest son for 1 yr. 600 miles away from her because she was homeless, he is 15. She is living with a friend and is on ssi and now has a job too. She is on welfare as well, foodstamps. She is telling my parents she has been sending me 300 dollars a month for his care, she has not sent a dime, I pay for everything for him, clothes , school, food, insurance etc. I love him like he was my own, I have a son 1 yr. younger than him, they get along great. She is also receiving child support (arears) for him and still sending nothing for him. I did not care at first because I did not take him for money, I can give him advantages she can't, but it is becoming a financial struggle on my family and it is pissing me off! She just got a puppy too?? She has 3 kids and the father of the other too has been raising them since they were little. She is defrauding the government with the welfare, she told them he is still with her. I want to report her but I don't want her to go to jail. I feel like if I don't do something she will never get on her feet and take him back, he feels she don't care it is sad. She is taking advantage of me and I am furious!
Second my mentally challenged younger sister just got out of a bad marriage and since my mom wanted out of caring for her and her 7 month old daughter, I got her an apt. by me and am helping her with paying her bills and food with her ssi check, everyone tossed her aside so I stepped in. I know I took on too much but I felt like if I did not she had no one. Now my mom is adopting her oldest child and saying if something happens to her can I raise her too? I said if she dies I would try but she is very physically disabled (the child is) and I do not feel equipped to handle that, I already have the care of my nephew and now my sister I can't do anymore. She laid a guilt trip on me and I feel like if I did not take the child she would be with foster care and mom says I should not let that happen. I have a family of my own and 2 kids of my own I want my life back how in the hell did I get sucked into all this and how do I get out now?
I am trying so hard to teach my sister to be self sufficient, to take care of herself it is a daily challenge, it is sucking the life out of me, I have hooked her up with every agency I can to help her, but she still calls me 10 times a day for stupid things like how does she stop her baby from crying or can I call her landlord for her, my mom babied her and I told my sister I was not going to do that, she is not retarded just slow, she can do everything on her own except manage her own money. Help...