Once again, another "girlfriend wants to slow down" thread
So, I HAVE searched the forum but I felt that it would at least make me feel better if I could receive some help on my exact situation.
So, first of all, my girlfriend and I are both 19. We met senior year in High school and we've been together for almost a year and a half (our anniversary is the 16th) Everything was going great and we just bought some promise rings for one another a few weeks back.
This last week was a complete 180 however. She says how she is trying to figure her life out (understandable) and we're both in the same college now and in about a year she will be trying to transfer and get into an RN position.
I am working a 40hour position at a hospital (office side of it) and still trying to go to school full time. I'm used to stress and heavy loads and I can STILL make time for her and try to see her as much as I can even though I work till 11pm every night.
She says that she just wants to see each other less, which I don't feel is a BAD thing because you get bored (and we've already had a break a few months back in which I ignored her and SHE wanted to get back together) But am I wrong to think it's not fair that she now doesn't know of her feelings for me when I've been nothing but help and encourage her to do what she is trying to go for? If I say "I Love you" she either doesn't reply and changes the subject or says the dreaded "I know."
She says she needs space and time and that it's not my fault at all for this, and that she knows that she is lucky to have me and that with all the crap she puts me through at times that I should have left a while ago. She's not good at showing emotion or being open with me (or anyone for that matter) And she said how she's never been good in relationships and that I'm the first fully committed relationship she's been in. She also said something about wanting to go see her friends and hang out with them more often yet I never stop her from doing what she wants or has to do.
I feel that if she isn't using school as her scapegoat because of the relationship (which was really going great) that she should still be able to show her feelings regardless if she is "all over the place" (according to her).
We also weren't having sex for a good 3 weeks or so until today, but for some reason she just hasn't been able to get in the mood or horny at all for a while now, and I usually can get her going in a snap.
I'm just unsure what I should do, I want to give her space but I don't want to a problem to be drawn out until the very end.
I am deeply in love with this girl and I finally decided I need help from other people.
Should I just give her some more space and try to make the time I CAN see her enjoyable and hope for the best? What should I do?
Kevin:confused: