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  • Aug 11, 2007, 03:04 PM
    Dark_crow
    Constitutional amendment to ban all divorces
    How many of you would endorse a constitutional amendment to ban all divorces:D

    Boy would that change the social decay in America.
  • Aug 11, 2007, 03:15 PM
    shygrneyzs
    No, I would not endorse such an amendment. There are very valid reasons for a divorce. Spousal abuse, child abuse and endangerment, criminal activities, etc. Keeping someone tied to a spouse who participates in any of those behaviors is giving that person a death sentence.

    I do agree that divorce should not be the first thing coming out of the mouths of couples who do not get along. Or, in planning the wedding, state that if it does not work out, they can always get a divorce. Maybe making it harder to get married - going through classes that involve elements of the marriage from budgeting to family planning. Some reality checks for those who believe that love is enough to feed them.
  • Aug 11, 2007, 03:22 PM
    Dark_crow
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shygrneyzs
    No, I would not endorse such an amendment. There are very valid reasons for a divorce. Spousal abuse, child abuse and endangerment, criminal activities, etc. Keeping someone tied to a spouse who participates in any of those behaviors is giving that person a death sentence.

    I do agree that divorce should not be the first thing coming out of the mouths of couples who do not get along. Or, in planning the wedding, state that if it does not work out, they can always get a divorce. Maybe making it harder to get married - going through classes that involve elements of the marriage from budgeting to family planning. Some reality checks for those who believe that love is enough to feed them.

    Whoops…should not have been so quick to hop-in-the-hay.

    My wife and I were each married only once and that was for 38 years, until her death. We had many serious problems, but worked through them in spite of great obstacles.
  • Aug 11, 2007, 04:55 PM
    shygrneyzs
    I used to believe that all marriages could be worked out and perhaps they can be, but it never works one-sided. If both are committed to making the marriage whole and better, then they should succeed and have a stronger marriage for their efforts.
  • Aug 11, 2007, 04:55 PM
    Choux
    I married for "money" and I paid for it every day of my life till I got a divorce... (actually, it wasn't that simple, it never is) Marriage wasn't for me. :)
  • Aug 11, 2007, 05:11 PM
    Choux
    I think the pending collapse of the real estate market in California and Florida may trigger widespread lack of confidence in our economy followed by a collapse of the stock market... there is nothing like hard times to bring families together in order to survive... surviving hard times breeds lots of character which is what a lot of Americans with money are sadly lacking.
  • Aug 11, 2007, 05:14 PM
    Dark_crow
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Choux
    I think the pending collapse of the real estate market in California and Florida may trigger widespread lack of confidence in our economy followed by a collapse of the stock market........there is nothing like hard times to bring families together in order to survive .....surviving hard times breeds lots of character which is what a lot of Americans with money are sadly lacking.

    I agree but must spread some Reputation around before giving it to you again.
  • Aug 11, 2007, 05:30 PM
    Dark_crow
    How the Hell can you disagree that I agree Jeeezzzz, you into the cooking wine again?
  • Aug 11, 2007, 06:29 PM
    nicespringgirl
    I don't know about if this is possible. Not sure if that is the best way to prevent divorce, could be I am not sure.
    I have lived in several different countries in my life, and been to many others.
    In couple Asian countries I have lived in, that is illegal to cheat on spouse, having an intimating relationship with the other person. If you catch them in bed, the you can sue them! Very very low divorce rate compared with America.
    Another Asian country-Indonesia, it is allowed to have more than one wife in some area, of course the divorce rate is low,LOL.
    In Sweden where I have studied and worked, most people don't get married, and they can be very faithful to their spouses. AS far as I have known, the divorce rate is quite low.
    Cultures make a big difference so is the law and regulation.
    The key is to willing to work things out and stay faithful. Sometimes a little bit pressure from the society is good.:)
  • Aug 12, 2007, 04:13 PM
    Starman
    I wouldn't since I would be agreeing to have my freedom of choice violated. Actually, such an amendment would go against the very purpose for which the Constitution was written--to protect USA citizen human rights.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:02 AM
    ETWolverine
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dark_crow
    How many of you would endorse a constitutional amendment to ban all divorces:D

    Boy would that change the social decay in America.

    Absolutely NOT!! :eek:

    The Constitution guarantees us the right to Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness. Thus, the option for divorce is a necessary right in order to guarantee the very purpose of the Constitution. After all, what married guy has a life? Which one has his liberty? And you can forget hapiness if you're married!! :D

    Elliot
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:13 AM
    ETWolverine
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Choux
    there is nothing like hard times to bring families together in order to survive

    Or tear them apart. Many is the time that families have split up over financial issues that were too much for them to deal with.

    Quote:

    ... surviving hard times breeds lots of character which is what a lot of Americans with money are sadly lacking.
    I had no idea that divorce was a class issue. All reports that I have seen on the subject have shown that poor people get divorced as often as rich people... there is no significant difference in the rate of divorce between lower-class, middle-class and upper-class families.

    Elliot
  • Aug 13, 2007, 07:22 AM
    Synnen
    There's no way I'd sign something like that, and I'm not likely to get a divorce, either.

    I agree with Shy--if you do something like that, you are passing a death sentence on people who are with an abusive spouse.

    As far as the response of not "being so quick to hop-in-the-hay", apparently you have no experience with abusive people. Most of them are very charming and likable, and have a great personality, and are very respectful to the outside world.

    Behind closed doors, though, they consider people to be property, to be talked to or punished as it is seen fit by the abuser. They know how to slowly wear away self-esteem and support systems. And they're so very good at convincing those that they abuse that it's because they "Love" them.

    How about instead of making divorce illegal, we make MARRIAGE illegal? If no one could get married, there wouldn't BE divorces!
  • Aug 13, 2007, 08:19 AM
    speechlesstx
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dark_crow
    How the Hell can you disagree that I agree Jeeezzzz, you into the cooking wine again?

    Thoroughly marinated it would appear.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 09:08 AM
    jillianleab
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dark_crow
    How many of you would endorse a constitutional amendment to ban all divorces:D

    Boy would that change the social decay in America.

    So you think divorce is the cause of social decay in America? Wow, and here I thought it was video games and porn.

    And no, divorce should not be banned.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 09:13 AM
    nicespringgirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jillianleab
    So you think divorce is the cause of social decay in America? Wow, and here I thought it was video games and porn.

    And no, divorce should not be banned.

    LOL, good point jillianleab! And alcohol... :D
  • Aug 13, 2007, 09:18 AM
    jillianleab
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by nicespringgirl
    LOL, good point jillianleab! And alcohol...:D

    And McDonalds, oil companies, the right wing, the left wing, The Simpsons Movie... boy, the list goes on! So much decay in our society! :rolleyes:
  • Aug 13, 2007, 09:24 AM
    nicespringgirl
    And the debt that you guys have... $$$:D
  • Aug 13, 2007, 05:52 PM
    iamgrowler
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dark_crow
    How many of you would endorse a constitutional amendment to ban all divorces:D

    Boy would that change the social decay in America.

    I wouldn't.

    OTOH, in this age of drug resistant diseases and cooties that kill, I would definitely support an amendment criminalizing adultery.
  • Aug 13, 2007, 06:37 PM
    jillianleab
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by iamgrowler
    I wouldn't.

    OTOH, in this age of drug resistant diseases and cooties that kill, I would definitely support an amendment criminalizing adultery.

    Apparently there are places you can sue a spouse for adultry. Personally I think it's a gigantic waste of the court's time and prevents the wronged person from moving on with their life, but to each their own. Besides, a law against it won't eliminate the "cooties".

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