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  • Aug 10, 2007, 05:45 AM
    hair2007
    Trying to get better everyday?
    Hi, me again, venting, and getting better every day moving on. But in the process I hear things from people about my ex. ( we ended again 6 weeks ago)

    Any way, it came to my attention yesterday he is dating, and moving in with, a girl who is a recovering drug addict (3 yrs) and a bisexual. I am not trying to degrade any one, but this has set me back a few steps, and I'm not sure why... I don't think I'm better than anyone, but he always wanted me back, only to not put in the effort but yet he ends up with someone in 6 weeks, and someone of this type.

    I know it just didn't click for him with me I guess after 12 yrs, but why does this make me feel bad? He would always down people for a lot of reasons so maybe I am shocked or jealous that he is with someone else so different from me, when he never gave us his all. And maybe its meant to be realizing that he was just coming around pretending to love me till he found someone more interesting?? Thanks for listening, any input appreciated... ( :
  • Aug 10, 2007, 05:55 AM
    SAB123
    Hey Hair, As you no my story. I found out from my sister that it is true my ex is dating. But when I found out a months ago from her sons step brother I was so hurt. Although it lasted a couple days then I was back to healing again. With me I think it was jealousy, picturing her with this new guy hurt very bad. Probably because she was once mine and now she's someone else's. And when I did find out it was more of a wake up call, she's moving on without me now it's my turn.
  • Aug 10, 2007, 06:20 AM
    hair2007
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by SAB123
    Hey Hair, As you no my story. I found out from my sister that it is true my ex is dating. But when I found out a months ago from her sons step brother I was so hurt. Although it lasted a couple days then I was back to healing again. With me I think it was jealousy, picturing her with this new guy hurt very bad. Probally because she was once mine and now she's someone else's. And when I did find out it was more of a wake up call, she's moving on without me now it's my turn.

    Yeah, this was a wake up call for me!! It just hurts when u hear it, but as with everything else it fades... ( ;
  • Aug 10, 2007, 11:42 AM
    talaniman
    News of the ex does get to us, but hold your head up and keep pushing forward.
  • Aug 10, 2007, 12:15 PM
    Dennis777
    Hello Hair

    Sending you a Great Big Hug.

    He is getting together with the looser because that's all he can get. Love is blind and you over looked many of his problems but others don't so I'm sure he needs a lady to control and she is the only one that will open the door for him.

    Just enjoy watching him crash and burn knowing he could have had you, a special lady that would have given him the world but his games got him a Lady that can only give him STD's hehehe Opps did I say that.

    You know your better off without him so hold your head up high and show not only the world but yourself that you are strong and will make it through this and have a great life with out him in it.

    Dennis777
  • Aug 10, 2007, 01:14 PM
    hair2007
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman
    News of the ex does get to us, but hold your head up and keep pushing forward.


    Hi tal, thanks for the input... I try everyday to push forward, and I'm doing good. I think it's a little harder for me cause I'm in the same block as him, have to see hhim and whoever, and have to hear people telling me things... but its OK, I'm getting use to it.. lol.. thanks again ( :
  • Aug 10, 2007, 01:20 PM
    hair2007
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dennis777
    Hello Hair

    Sending you a Great Big Hug.

    He is getting together with the looser because thats all he can get. Love is blind and you over looked many of his problems but others don't so im sure he needs a lady to control and she is the only one that will open the door for him.

    Just enjoy watching him crash and burn knowing he could have had you, a special lady that would have given him the world but his games got him a Lady that can only give him STD's hehehe Opps did i say that.

    You know your better off without him so hold your head up high and show not only the world but yourself that you are strong and will make it through this and have a great life with out him in it.

    Dennis777

    Hi dennis thanks for the hug I needed it... ( : u might be right, about him needing someone beneath him to control, someone who has less in all ways... to bad though cause I gave him my all and more, for so long and after so many games... speaking of STDs, I thought the same thing, never mind worrying about that in general, but you up yr chances in my book with someone who has been involved in the world she has... thank you for responding ( ;

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