Hi, I'm just in my first relationship; I am still a virgin, and my boyfriend respects my decision for us to wait and take it slow first. We have thought of other options in getting intimate, and we're doing OK. I'm just a little concerned, because he wants me to get down there, and I'm really willing to try it because I love him... but I'm kind of scared of doing it. And also, he has hinted me to try swallowing the semen afterwards.

Now, will swallowing get me pregnant? I know it's a pretty ignorant thing to ask, and he told me I won't get pregnant, but I just want assurance from you guys.

Thanks a lot!

How old are you hun?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by J_9

How old are you hun?

---

I'm turning 19. Sex talk was kind of taboo before, me having been educated in an all-girls catholic school. So pardon my ignorance. My boyfriend is 21, we're both attending the same university. I know he loves and respects me, he has never forced me into doing something I didn't want to do. But I'm willing to try it with him, for him...

No, oral sex will not get you pregnant.

There is a great book called "Hot Sex...How to Do It". It's a great book it talks about respecting yourself and your partner. It even has a chapter about how to know when you should lose your virginity.

It has a chapter on performing fellatio and details what you can do and what will happen and what it will feel like.

The book was written by a sex educator I cannot remember her name however but I sure you could purchase it on amazon.com

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by J_9

No, oral sex will not get you pregnant.

---

Thanks so much, J_9! I appreciate it that the answer came from you, being so well-respected here.:)

By the way, how can I make him use a flavored condom when I finally decide to do it, without making him feel offended? I'm still not up to the idea of tasting human flesh down there. But he's hygienic, and told me we could do it in the bathroom after shower... so maybe I'll just try first...

Thanks again for your help!

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

there is a great book called "Hot Sex...How to Do It". Its a great book it talks about respecting yourself and your partner. It even has a chapter about how to know when you should lose your virginity.

it has a chapter on performing fellatio and details what you can do and what will happen and what it will feel like.

The book was written by a sex educator I cannot remember her name however but I sure you could purchase it on amazon.com

---

Thank you! I'll search for that book. :)

Sweetie, don't do it just to please him. It is better for both of you if you wait until you are ready.

How can you make him use the flavored condom? Just tell him that you feel more comfortable that way. If he respects you he will understand that.

Well yeah, being honest/open with each other can just make everything easier. That's wisdom. :D

Please educate yourself sexually. Its absolutely important to your life, your health, and your happiness.

I'm not scolding you, I'm pleading. Understand your own body... it takes work, reading, talking, etc. its one of the most important things you can do. A happy sex life can greatly contribute to a happy life. A proper understanding of your body will go a long way toward making it so.

Hello.

It sounds like you are being pushed into doing more then your ready to do. When your ready let him tell you what feels good and what doesn't. Communication always makes Love Making better. The same goes with when your ready for him to make you happy. Let him know what you like and don't like.

As for using a flavored condom, just tell him you would enjoy it more if he would get one for you. If he cares he will have no problem doing it.

Just remember Guys your age think with their lower heads much more then their upper ones and because of that they will tell you anything to get what they want. So take it slow and make sure your ready and not being pushed into anything.

Good Luck
Dennis777

I'm sorry for being a latebloomer or whatever you call it. It may sound mushy but I think you'd understand how being in love is.

Thanks for the advices, kp2171 and Dennis777.:)

Don't forget we're happy to answer any more questions that you have :)

But definitely get a book on it!

Only do this if and when YOU are personally ready to do it. Don't if you feel pressured as you might feel resentment and associate it with that. I never pressured my wife to do that, just a little encouragement... was always at her schedule not mine. She loves it now and still is when she wants not on my insistence. Which is surprisingly often. And yes I love it.

As long as he has no STD's you won't catch anything nor will you get pregnant. Just keep in mind where you have your hands and wash them so they are not the means of getting sperm to the vaginal area.

Kudos to you all for the honest replies. :)

Well before I went there I would make sure he is clean. I mean no STDs. You can get them from oral sex. And I would not do anything I feel uncomfortable with. This is your body, your emotions. If you want him to wear a condoms, tell him to, it's that simple.