Ask Me Help Desk - Would you ask her back?

Would you ask her back?

If you broke up with someone and that person had a really hard time getting over you but she started to slowly get over you, would you think of asking her back if you really love her?

If you ask and she says no, she would have to have a hard time getting over you all over again. But then if she says yes, you will be very happy.

So if you really loved her, would you ask?

Why would you break up with them if you really loved them? Am I missing something?

This is what I'm wondering, that maybe they think you've moved on and they love you enough to leave you alone to heal. When what you really want is them to come back to you

No, because if you love some one you don't break up, what sense does that make? Going back after you dump someone is selfish and self serving, and doesn't show you love them. Just the opposite in fact.

I think you have to ask back. People can do mistakes.. and god gives u time to correct it also and that time is too less... so if u think u really want her u can get her back.. love can heal evrything, not time...

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Originally Posted by miss_a

If you broke up with someone and that person had a really hard time getting over you but she started to slowly get over you, would you think of asking her back if you really love her?

Yes I would, But when you love someone why would you break up with them in the first place?

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Originally Posted by miss_a

If you ask and she says no, she would have to have a hard time getting over you all over again. But then if she says yes, you will be very happy.

Well if she says no I would think she is getting over you and I would feel like a total idiot for asking her back then I would probably regret ever breaking up with her.

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Originally Posted by miss_a

So if you really loved her, would you ask?

After thinking about why I broke up with her in the first place then resolving the problem why with her, Then yes I would beg for her back.

Thanks for all the answers. I wrote this from the perspective of my ex, and I don't know if I should hint that I do want him back.

How long have you been broken up and why did you break up? Sometimes we have to admit we made a mistake. Instead of hinting - Its simple to just say, "I made a mistake!" If you want to make it work and you were the dumper, your probably going to have to put some work in!

If I really loved her, I would have never broken up with her in the first place.

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Originally Posted by s_cianci

If I really loved her, I would have never broken up with her in the first place.

I think that you can really love someone but in the heat of a argument have a temporary lapse of reason and breakup with themj

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Originally Posted by MissingHim2Much

I think that you can really love someone but in the heat of a argument have a temporary lapse of reason and breakup with themj

Yes, My ex has done this also several times.

The odds r you're just jealous...

Wait another month... then, see if you still want to.
If so, take a shot and see.

In my case I would like to dream of my ex coming back but as she was the dumper she would need to make the effort to start the whole process of. As the dumpee you can only make your feeligns known before you have to surrender and get your off the ground and move on and forget the past. Or your never be healthy.

He broke up with me about a month and a half ago. I've been giving him the impression that I don't need him and that I'm very angry for him breaking up with me, whereas he's been apologetic.

He was the one who did the breaking up, so I don't think I should be asking him back. How do I hint that I do want him back, but still put the pressure on him to ask me back?

He was the one who did the breaking up, so I don't think I should be asking him back. How do I hint that I do want him back, but still put the pressure on him to ask me back?[/QUOTE]

I'm trying total no contact... but I'm not at all sure if its going to work. Besides I just found out he's talking to this girl that's totally out of his comfort zone.. She's a slut with several different children by several different men so now I don't even think I want him back.

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Originally Posted by miss_a

He broke up with me about a month and a half ago. I've been giving him the impression that I don't need him and that I'm very angry for him breaking up with me, whereas he's been apologetic.

He was the one who did the breaking up, so I don't think I should be asking him back. How do I hint that I do want him back, but still put the pressure on him to ask me back?

I was in similar situation months ago. My ex of 5 years broke up with me end of last year and soon started seeing another girl. I was heart-broken and devastated. In the beginning I kept contact with him, with the hope that very soon he'll ask to get back together. Unfortunately, it only made things worst and one day I changed my mobile number so he couldn't reach me.

If your ex loves you, he'll not break up with you. If he still loves you, you'll try all means to get you back. You deserve a guy who cares about your feelings and not to let you go through this. I'd say drop him and move on. You'd be surprised how things turn out. Take care!

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Originally Posted by miss_a

He broke up with me about a month and a half ago. I've been giving him the impression that I don't need him and that I'm very angry for him breaking up with me, whereas he's been apologetic.

He was the one who did the breaking up, so I don't think I should be asking him back. How do I hint that I do want him back, but still put the pressure on him to ask me back?

Coming back is his choice and nothing you can do will change that. Do you really want some one you have to pressure to be with you? That is not a healthy relationship. Move on and find your happiness without him and someone who cares will want to share it with you.