I have a boyfriend who I love and I thought I was IN love. We have been going out for 8 months. Im 16 and he's 20. Hes amazing, he buys me what I want, takes me where I want to go. My family loves him. Hes everything anyone could want in a guy. Hes ready for a long term relationship, and I thought I was too... until I went to Flordia a couple weeks ago. I was gone for 3 weeks. I cheated on my boyfriend for the first time. But I fell in love with his guy I meet down there. Hes so fun, he's funny, he nice, repestful everything that my boyfriend is, but my boyfriend is boring, we don't do anything besides the movies or a friends house, I can't talk to other guys, he gets really really jealuos. The problem is, don't want to leave my boyfriend for someone who lives in Flordia when I live in Michigan. Me and this guy have talked... he really wants to be with me, but there's no way for us to be together. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend and lose the best thing in my life, expectailly after right beofre I went to flordia, I wanted a promise ring, and he got me one... what do I do??

First U Already Cheated Which Means U Really Don't Love Him U Might Love Him But Not Really Love Him. U Should Either Be Honest Or End The Relationship U Don't Have To Settle For Less Qualities In A Guy Don't Limit Yourself And Don't Be With Him Jus To Pass Time Cause There Is A Girl That Could Proably Love Him All The Way. Long Distance Relationships Never Work Everyone Knows This. Jus Date As Of Now And Wait Till U Find An All Out Connection With A Guy U Really Feel.

Your young so your going to meet plenty of other guys out there and don't blame yourself for the way you feel. Love only last so long but I don't think you should stay with him. You should tell him how your feeling confused and you don't know what to do. If he really loves you he won't put pressure on you and he should help you through this in the end though it all comes down to how your feeling do you really think you want to be with your current boyfriend for the rest of your life?

You are like the cow in the pasture, chewing on the green grass and wistfully looking over the fence at the other green grass, thinking it MUST taste better than what you have right there in front of you.

You want both guys on the hook, don't you? Then at least be honest with yourself and then honest with these young men. Don't play your boyfriend for a fool, which is what you are doing right now. You just might get what you wish for - to be free and go to the other guy.

You say this boyfriend you have now is "the best thing." You obviously do not think so, or you would not be entertaining thoughts of the other guy. There are red flags all over this.

Read back to your words describing your bf's behavior - jealousy, don't do anything, can't talk to other guys, etc. Do you really think an over possessive guy is "the best thing?" I don't think so. What reason does your boyfriend have to be so jealous? If you can honestly say there are no reasons, then you need to think about getting out and over him. No matter what he buys you. That is just cheap of you, to accept gifts from him and say you are in love with this other guy you met in Florida.

Am sorry to say this but what you have done made me resentful... Excuse me for what am going to say... but you are so selfish you do not think of anyone but yourself... you only cares for what you want and your advantage but you do not care for the man who really cares & loves you... who gave you everything you want and you know it's very rare nowadays to find such a person who is serious in his relationship and does not take an advantage from you then break your heart... You do not love anyone but yourself... The best thing you do to be honest with yourself and think over what do you want in your life putting in your consideration others feelings...

Ms. Redrose

I think thatyou should tell him what realii happened in flordia... its better for him to find out 4m u now then to find out by someone els later and you loose everything! If someone did that to u,u would at to noe rite?? Tell the trueth and see where it gos from there

Your just a hoar and don't deserve your boyfriend hope he finds out or you catch some disease...

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Originally Posted by mckenzie134

your just a hoar and dont deserve your bf hope he finds out or you catch some disease...

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That's so horrid don't tell me you sliped up once? Come on be resonable like she said it only happened once. If she just tells her boyfriend what happened and worked it out with him; if she doesn't love her boyfriend she doesn't have to be with him.

She is no hoar! A hoar is someone who s different men without caring! She obvoiusly likes the two guys and doesn't mean to hurt them.

So leave her alone you bully!

If she didn't want to be with her bf she should have broken up before she slept with the other guy. She just wants to have her foot in both doors. She doesn't want to be lonely so doesn't want to leave her bf just in case

First a 16 year old has no business dating a 20 year old, what type of parents allow this, I think they need to be reported first and foremost since their lose behavior is part of the cause of all of this.

If you are being with someone else, do your other boyfriend a favor and let him find someone that will be true to him

IMO: you have a completely miconstrued contorted envisionment of what real love is. Im guessing you found something out of cosmo that said LOVE IS: and then went with that.
Your actions were childish and immature, and if you have any grip on reality you would know that there is no WAY that a 16 year old girl would be able to maintain a relationship with some guy four states away.
Not to mention that because you have brought infidelity into your relationship you will have trust issues with this guy because you will have a reflected view of your own actions towards him in his absence.
You say that he is boring but do you think that when you're married to a guy for 10-20-30 years that you will be skydiving and travelling the world over? No.
You tried to prove to all the readers of your post how much this guy loves you by saying that he buys you stuff and takes you where you want to go which tells me that you're a self-seeking person who possibly doesn't know how to show true love in the first place.
Its easy to tell someone you love them, and snuggle, and play... but love girly, as harsh as this message has been, LOVE
Love is the absence of self-centeredness, it is patience, and respect.
And when you do grow up chick, you'll learn that you don't fall in love -you fall into ditches.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

First a 16 year old has no business dating a 20 year old, what type of parents allow this, I think they need to be reported first and foremost since thier lose behavior is part of the cause of all of this.

If you are being with someone else, do your other boyfriend a favor and let him find someone that will be true to him

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I disagree, I believe that relationships should be gauged upon maturity, not age, (Within perimiters)
But I do believe that THIS 16 year old does not fit into the mature enough to be dating a 20 year old, or anyone for that metter.

Its really quite simple, you really are a selfish and inconsiderate person. You don't love either of them. You just want them to have them, or you like the attention. Who knows, it could just be that you have this sick desire to be in these situations. Regardless, what you are doing is just wrong in every sense of the word. You took someone's trust, and you ruined it. Then you complained about him being jealous (although he has every right to be, you clearly have no self control). I mean like you said, he tries so hard for you yet you can't even put out an effort to try and not put someone else's tongue in your mouth? You didn't, you don't care about either of them. Only about you. You care about which person will make you more happy. Well honestly... you don't deserve either of them you need to mature before you ever consider entering any sort of relashionship. The bottom line is, Grow the up.

-Jenny

I am in the same situation. Follow your heart. Who do you think that you will have the longest relationship with? And most importantly, if you do break up with your boyfriend, will you miss him? Because you probably won't be able to get him back.

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Originally Posted by dofishesthink

Its really quite simple, you really are a selfish and inconsiderate person. You don't love either of them. You just want them to have them, or you like the attention. Who knows, it could just be that you have this sick desire to be in these situations. Regardless, what you are doing is just wrong in every sense of the word. You took someones trust, and you ruined it. Then you complained about him being jealous (although he has every right to be, you clearly have no self control). I mean like you said, he tries so hard for you yet you can't even put out an effort to try and not put someone elses tounge in your mouth? You didn't, you don't care about either of them. Only about you. You care about which person will make you more happy. Well honestly... you don't deserve either of them you need to mature before you ever consider entering any sort of relashionship. The bottom line is, Grow the up.

-Jenny

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Cut the girl some slack.