Ask Me Help Desk - Does he still love me?

Hi I have been going out with a guy for a year and a half,he moved to away and asked me to go with him,I moved up shortly after to be with him and we lived together with his brother and sister in law for a year,things started getting tuff, we began to fight a lot and he decided to end our relatioship,I don't blame him at all though because we weren't getting along as good as we should have,I negged at him a lot about things witch I know now I shouldn't have done.. It was stressful living with another couple at times and he didn't understand really how I fealt because they were his family and I fealt alone and missed my family back home.we did love each other very much though and we both did a lot for each other,he asked me to marry him,we were going to share our lives together.I took his love for granted and thaught I could get away with it but I was wrong,I made a huge mistake and I tried to patch things up with him but it didn't work,he was vey hateful towards me and didn't want me at all,so I moved out with a friend of mine for two weeks and once he seen that I was moving on he came back to me appoligising to me and saying he loved me a lot and he wanted to work things out,I took him back,and than we moved back home together,when we got back he didn't call me for four days,he went on partys with his friends and he didn't call me at all until the four days were up,I asked him what he has been doing all the time and he told me and I was very mad at him for not calling me and going out without me,we got mad at each other again and this time I ended it,and he was fine with it,as if he wasn't bothered at all,I was very mad at this and a day or two went by and I called him appoligising for getting so mad at him,after all he wasn't home for a year and a half so he needed his time with his friends.we made up and got back together,I know he loves me a lot,he said it all the time and I knew he meant it,he always bregged to his friends about me and always called me beautiful,now we are broke up again,this time it has lasted for two months and I don't know what to do,I love him dearly and I feel as if he forgot about me,I se him around sometimes but he looks lonely and dpressed,he seems to be off by himself a lot and don't look very happy,I have been on a date and h e isn't seeing anyone else,I haven't talked to him for three weeks,I miss him soooo much but I feel like he forgot about me,mabe he thinks I have moved on and dot want to call me?? I don't know what to think HELP SOMEONE!

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Originally Posted by 51361234

hi i have been going out with a guy for a year and a half,he moved to away and asked me to go with him,i moved up shortly after to be with him and we lived together with his brother and sister in law for a year,things started getting tuff, we began to fight alot and he decided to end our relatioship,i dont blame him at all though because we werent getting along as good as we should have,i negged at him alot about things witch i know now i shouldnt have done..It was stressful living with another couple at times and he didnt understand really how i fealt because they were his family and i fealt alone and missed my family back home.we did love eachother very much though and we both did alot for eachother,he asked me to marry him,we were going to share our lives together.i took his love for granted and thaught i could get away with it but i was wrong,i made a huge mistake and i tried to patch things up with him but it didnt work,he was vey hateful towards me and didnt want me at all,so i moved out with a friend of mine for two weeks and once he seen that i was moving on he came back to me appoligising to me and saying he loved me alot and he wanted to work things out,i took him back,and than we moved back home together,when we got back he didnt call me for four days,he went on partys with his friends and he didnt call me at all until the four days were up,i asked him what he has been doing all the time and he told me and i was very mad at him for not calling me and going out without me,we got mad at eachother again and this time i ended it,and he was fine with it,as if he wasnt bothered at all,i was very mad at this and a day or two went by and i called him appoligising for getting so mad at him,after all he wasnt home for a year and a half so he needed his time with his friends.we made up and got back together,i know he loves me alot,he said it all the time and i knew he meant it,he always bregged to his friends about me and always called me beautiful,now we are broke up again,this time it has lasted for two months and i dont know wht to do,i love him dearly and i feel as if he forgot about me,i se him around somtimes but he looks lonely and dpressed,he seems to be off by himself alot and dont look very happy,i have been on a date and h e isnt seeing anyone else,i havent talked to him for three weeks,i miss him soooo much but i feel like he forgot about me,mabe he thinks i have moved on and dot want to call me???i dont know what to think HELP SOMEONE!!

Ok I do agree with Ash123 on that it is a bit unclear where exactly things sit but I believe I get it. As a guy who lost the love of his life 2 mo. Ago roughly I know what you are going through. It hurts. My love seems to be doing the same thing to me as yours is to you. Your relationship has had a lot of ups and downs. My advise is to try being friends for a while. Don't date or do anything romantic. The best relationships and marriages are those with your best friend. If you can't be friends than you have almost nothing. My best advise is to forget trying to get back with him for a while and just work on being his friend. Be there for him. Cheer him up. Do fun things together, chill, do interesting but NON-romantic ventures. Jumping right back into it and going through all that again will only hurt you guys worse ans solve nothing. Learn how to get along without the complications of loving each other at the same time. My only advise. Its what I'm trying to do and appears to be working fairly well. Anyhoo goodluck with you man.
~Cheers

Thank you for the great advice,I tried what you had told me to do and it seems to be going very well so far,I'm sorry if what I wrote was a little confusing to read

First of all, I think you need to thoroughly analyze what issues kept coming between you and why. You may want a counselor to help you with this. Take a long, hard look at yourself and try to realize how you contributed to the problems you've been having with each other. Try to decide whether you feel things could really work out between you. If you come to the conclusion that they could, then contact him and share with him everything you've come to realize about the situation. I think he needs two things ; 1.) he needs reassurance that this relationship could be successful and 2.) he needs to do the same thing I'm advising you to do, which is to analyze his part in things and decide if he can make the necessary adjustments to facilitate your relationship.