I've realised recently that every time I am alone with my boyfriend we end up making love. I want to know if this is bad, I don't want him to think he can have me whenever he wants even though he has been having me whenever he wants, he doesn't force me or anything but there are sometimes where I just want to sleep in his arms with out it leading to sex. Help

Tell him exactly that "I would just like to fall asleep with you tonight, maybe tomorrow honey."

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Originally Posted by sGt HarDKorE

Tell him exactly that "I would just like to fall asleep with you tonight, maybe tomorrow honey."

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I've tried that but see I physically want to make love to him but afterwards is when I feel terrible because I feel that our relationship is dependent on sex but the thing is, we are only new to it.

It's just a phase caused by the want to keep doing something new and enjoyable, it will eventually taper off. I wouldn't say that your relationship is sex dependent just yet; if your boyfriend has a problem with you not wanting to engage in sex sometimes then yes it may very well be. Just remember, if you really don't feel like doing it you must speak up.

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Originally Posted by rankrank55

It's just a phase caused by the want to keep doing something new and enjoyable, it will eventually taper off. I wouldn't say that your relationship is sex dependent just yet; if your boyfriend has a problem with you not wanting to engage in sex sometimes then yes it may very well be. Just remember, if you really don't feel like doing it you must speak up.

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how do I tell him I don't want to with out offending him and to make him understand?
I know he will respect me if I'm serious but I know if I just tell him I don't want to randomly he'll think I'm just joking and still try and seduce me, or should I wait until he tries to seduce me to tell him I don't want to..?

well if you don't want to randomly do it, just wait for him to try to seduce you. Then just say how you feel, "Honey, would you mind if we did something different?" Then tell him. If he tries to seduce you, you shouldn't let him. You own your own body, and if he comes after you then you should protect your body that will make him know that you are serious. Just tell him you think sex should be something special, and you want to do other things to make it special <Instert things here>.

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Originally Posted by sGt HarDKorE

well if you dont want to randomly do it, just wait for him to try to seduce you. Then just say how you feel, "Honey, would you mind if we did something different?" Then tell him. If he tries to seduce you, you shouldnt let him. You own your own body, and if he comes after you then you should protect your body that will make him know that you are serious. Just tell him you think sex should be something special, and you want to do other things to make it special <Instert things here>.

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Thanks buddie, you've been a good help!

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Originally Posted by luvabubble

ive realised recently that every time i am alone with my boyfriend we end up making love. i want to know if this is bad, i dont want him to think he can have me whenever he wants even though he has been having me whenever he wants, he doesnt force me or anything but there are sometimes where i just wana sleep in his arms with out it leading to sex. help

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I was in a relationship of 4 years and most of the time it was all about sex... eventually it got boring... I now realized that I wanted some bonding time with him... but it really never happened.Sometimes us girls just want to cuddle but they'll cuddle all right!! just let him know how you feel and if he thinks your relationship revolves around sex than he just wants you for his own good... Hope I helped