My boyfriend has rejected me 3 times in the past 5 months saying things like "get off me you will flood me" or when I went to perform oral on him he suddenly had a coughing fit and didn't want me to have sex with him and has also told me I smell down there to put me off. Do you think he loves me or is he getting it somewhere else? I know its not me I dress up for him and he tells me that I am ridiculous and don't need it, but he only wants to have sex facing my back never my face and its once a week with no romance just an empty out.What am I to think?

Oh dear......
Hunni, I'm not sure, none of us can say forsure. But in all honesty, it sounds like y'all are losing your flame...
Maybe you could try non-sexual couple activities:).

You better sit him down for a talk as there is more going on than just sex problems. No communication no relationship. Get to the roots of the problem and work together to solve it. Either way he has no business talking down to you that way. Start with him understanding how that makes you feel.

Sounds like you have a real basket case for a boyfriend. Is this the kind of "relationship" you really want? I'd drop him like a hot potato and move on. Always remember, when something doesn't seem right to you, it isn't.

I can't believe you need to ask if he loves you.

He sounds like a cruel heartless abuser, taking advantage of someone that loves him. I would would write Fu(k You little d1ck on my back and lift my shirt up on my way out the door! Stop and turn back around and yell, Oh and by the way can I have my trophy for faking orgasms before I leave. :) Jerks like this really pi$$ me off. There is no need to belittle someone like he is doing you! Get rid of his sorry a$$!

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Originally Posted by s_cianci

Sounds like you have a real basket case for a boyfriend. Is this the kind of "relationship" you really want? I'd drop him like a hot potato and move on. Always remember, when something doesn't seem right to you, it isn't.

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So true, "when something doesnt seem right it isnt", if only it was that easy to know it and so something about it we would all be much better off...

No. He does not love you, because if he did you would know and would not need to ask. The problem is not you, its him, leave him and his problems alone. Do you love yourself, that's all that should matter. Respect YOURSELF, and you will find that no one else will disrespect you. Love yourself, and he will stop mattering!

It has all been summed up already... he does not love you hun, I say that with 100% conviction. Now you need to stand up and love yourself. My mother always told me that you cannot love someone else until you love yourself first... it's so true - I hope you grow to realise this, and trust that a good relationship will come your way once you have achieved this.

Well I have moved back in with him after he found out I had an affair as I was so alone and felt unloved he said he understood and that he had pushed me away.He said that he would forgive me and we should try again and would change.But I worry change for how long before he gets back to the way he was before,paying me no attention and will he actually be able to forgive me and trust me again or love me again for real?

He is an abuser,I am thinking if there is a way to sue him...