Hey I an 18y.o gay male and a virgin and I want to know how I can stop being so easily aroused. Whenever I'm even just pulling/kissing a guy I get a full erection and its even wet. There is then a wet patch on my jeans. Even when I try thinking of different things it won't go away! Its really embarrassing walking round a club trying to hide this wet patch. How do I stop being so easily aroused? If I have sex will it stop? Please its ssoo emabrrasing, please help

Hello.

The problem is you're a 18 year old that thinks with his lower head more then his upper one hehehe... Don't worry we all do it but in time you will learn to control your excitement. If you know your going out you can jerk off first so your not as horny but that will only last a short time before your ready for action. You might try a thicker underwear that will keep the wetness away from your jeans.

Dennis777

I was 17 and often walked home from my gf's house with that condition. I look back at that time as a time of growing up and becoming a man. Not sure how you could cover up the evidence, but I certainly wouldn't worry about it. Hope you're not.

Well, I get the same problem. But I am 19... and I've been trying to control myself for weeks now and haven't seen any improvement's... does it just come all of a sudden?? Or does it improve thorugh stages...

Thanks

18 year old guys in general are easy to arouse. It's the hormone thing. Gay or straight it's the same. Try going to tighty whities (cotton briefs) and avoid thin materials or boxers. It worked for me at that stage. Just pack willy the one eyed wonder snake downward and the shorts keep it in a position that's hard to get hard... pun intended. Pack it upwards or sideways its easier get get in the embarrassing state, downwards and you'll find it won't get erect.

@ smoothy sounds like a good idea but aren't breifs like anoying and uncomfortable and also embarrassing for your girlfriend to see, not sure how it would look for your boyfriend if you are gay :S

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@ smoothy sounds like a good idea but arent breifs like anoying and uncomfortable and also embarrasing for your girlfriend to see, not sure how it would look for your boyfriend if you are gay :S

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Not at all, I think more guys wear breifs than wear boxers... and they are easier to find than boxers are as well. Any place that sells clothes has them. Hell you even have the low rise and the bikini type that will work just as well if you prefer that look, even thongs are available for men in the major stores by the same manufacturers. Actually anything BUT boxers work for this.

Like I said, I dealt with that as well when I was younger. Never wore boxers for that reason. And I find this method is 100% effective. Curl it downward and while you may get excited it may try to stiffen, but in that position its not going to, and its not an uncomfortable position either, therefore you eliminate the embarrassing stiffy in public.

More guys do wear briiefs than boxers... I think there is a topic about this somewhere.

Anyway, recently (90s) boxer briefs were invented. These are not as uncool as briefs, and will keep your junk in check. Try some out.

Well I do have a few pear's but never wear them when I'm visiting the girlfriend cause I think its embarrssing don't know what she will think :S

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well i do have a few pear's but never wear them when im visiting the girlfriend cause i think its embarrssing dont know what she will think :S

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Why would she think anything... odds are if she's been with anyone else they wore briefs... and odds are if you split up she's end up with a guy who wore briefs. There are plenty that are not white and definitely not what your father might wear. SO you can have those and not have something your father or grandfather would wear. As in the standard white Fruit of the loom undies.

I don't wear Boxers for example... I don't like them feels like I'm wearing pajamas under my clothes. But I don't wear the standard tighty whities either.

Check out Ebay for some examples.

Well, I've slept at hers many of times and wear boxer's so it will be kind of strange apearin with breifs and also what would her mum say when am walking about in my breifs cause I don't usually wear bathrobe or jamys

Try boxer-briefs. They're like boxers but tighter.

Sounds a bit better of an option will have to get some of them, but would have to be a rather smaller size so that they would be tight right??

Not really, boxers are just big for their size anyway.

Not sure about Boxer briefs... never wore them, if they allow your "package" to go anywhere but down like regular briefs will hold it they may not work. Following your leg won't achieve the intended results.

If you pack it down, arousal will hurt, but get a jock strap, and not only get support, but will insulate against your jeans as well.

Get a what strap? What might this be?

I have seen guys in boxer briefs and I believe they will achieve the same affect Smoothy was talking about with the briefs. Just get a little bit of a tighter pair.

A tighter pair meaning a smaller size so they fit tight?

Either get a smaller size or I know they make some out of different kinds of fabric than cotton that have a snugger fit. You might try those too. Just don't get a pair so tight that you are uncomfortable all the time.