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  • Aug 3, 2007, 01:04 AM
    Bautista
    Should I Stay With Him Or Leave Him!
    Ok well I have this boyfriend I have been with him for 1 year and 8 months our relationship was great until well this one girl came in, she is ugly in a way but pretty 2... well my boyfriend would talk to her and they were friends and than well I guess he called her once and was talking to her and told her he liked her and well ever since that day things haven't been the same... :( But there is nothing I could do anymore I have tried talking to him but he gets mad... and well he has done so many things that hurt me and now I don't even think my feelings for him are the same I want to leave him and move on because I am so confused about how I fell about him...
    I know I still have feelings for him deep down but at the same time I don't...
    And well I know he still likes me but at the same time I am not sure but I don't want to make a mistake on braking up with him because maybe I am wrong maybe he does love me like he says he does but who knows... I could be wrong I don't know what to do I don't want to make a mistake!! :confused:
  • Aug 3, 2007, 06:30 AM
    samesame
    Take a break and see what happens. Sounds like you need space and some time apart to reconcile your feelings.
  • Aug 3, 2007, 06:32 AM
    GlindaofOz
    So he called another girl and told her that he liked her then started treating you badly?

    Darling he is a jerk. Break up move on and find someone who will treat you good ALL the time.
  • Aug 3, 2007, 06:33 AM
    tkdgal
    If your boyfriend was so quick to be interested in another girl when he was in a relationship with you, it's obvious that he's too immature to understand what he's done to you. Since he's completely changed his behavior around you, he is not worth your time. Trying to fix things may make him think you're clingy, which is very unattractive. Especially if he gets mad when you try to talk to him about it... this means he does not want the relationship to continue. It was wonderful of you to try to keep things going because it shows how dedicated and committed you were, but his heart is not yet ready to take on that commitment. If he's hurt you before this, also, there is absolutely no reason to keep hanging on by a thin little string. Let go, and be free to explore the world of dating once again while he assess his actions. He may just realize later on the mistake he's made, and try to pick things up once again. Being confused in a relationship about your feelings is a warning sign to drop things for a while so you can think about what you really want. Continuing something you don't want to do could result in quick failure, and you'll be crushed about the breakup for a long time. You are NOT making a mistake by breaking up with him. In fact, it is the healthy thing to do, and I would suggest it highly. Don't let what you think get in the way of what you feel. Trust your heart... you need space and time. Good luck! :)
  • Aug 3, 2007, 06:39 AM
    Bluerose
    Bottom line…….. They meet someone else and they begin to treat you bad hoping you will break up with them……. Why? Because they don't have the guts to break up with you. Move on, sweetie and if he comes sniffing around make him work for it. Let him know you are not going to simply hang around while he sticks his toe in someone else's pool!
  • Nov 12, 2011, 06:52 PM
    Aleigh123
    I have been there and done that. Me and my boyfriend have been dating a year now. We met at a party and the first time we saw each other it was love at first sight. Everything was great till October of this year. He met this girl and they hang out a football games and all that when I don't know about it, he has even told me she wouldn't be where ever he's going but I end up finding out she was there after all. The past two weeks I have had mixed feelings for him, I still love him deep down but I feel like I'd be better off if we took a break. But I do worry a lot when I think, What if I'm wrong? The best advice I can give you now is do what I'm trying to do, don't leave just yet, stick around a little while longer and see if anything changes. If not then maybe it is time for a break, you can't be happy in an unhappy relationship unless you two work it out together.
    Best of luck

    Ok, this is just my opinion, if you still have love for someone you can't just leave, its not that easy. Deciding whether to leave a relationship isn't easy to go threw, people handle situations differently. If your one of the people who still has feelings for someone but you can't decide whether to leave then my advice is to stay a while longer, you don't want to be one of those people who end up single then you realize it was a mistake to leave, but in the end it could be too late to go back.

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