He likes blowjobs... and he likes it missionary style... okay... ive never been in this kind of situation before... we have only been married 2 months... at first he would touch me... kiss me.. but he seems to not like to kiss or touch me anywhere... my last guy was younger than me and we had sex all the time and we both enjoyed it... I have a nice body... fresh breath... what the hell is going on... HELP!!

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Originally Posted by angela tuttle

he likes blowjobs.......and he likes it missionary style...okay...ive never been in this kinda situation before...we have only been married 2 months...at first he would touch me ...kiss me..but he seems to not like to kiss or touch me anywhere...my last guy was younger than me and we had sex all the time and we both enjoyed it....i have a nice body...fresh breath...what the hell is going on...HELP!!!!

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Well I know how you feel, I was married for 10 years, and during that time my husband and I had sex all the time, but I got sick with depression for 8 years, then I found out that he was having sex wit another woman, he is not seeing her anymore, he says that he loves me, but our sex life isn't what it use to be, so I told him that if he doesn't want to touch me, kiss me, hug me, caress me, and show me some affection, that there is someone out there that will. And it will be his fault cause he didn't give you what you need, you give him what he needs right? There is notthing wrong with you, it's him. Something is going on with him that he is not telling you. You need to sit down and have a family talk and if he doesn't want to then honey you need to let him go. Cause you deserve better, and there are penlty of guys out there that want a good woman. I know that you love him very much but sometimes we just have to put the ball back in his court. Change your image, dye your hair, change the way you dress, fix yourself up everyday, if he is sitting watching TV, come out all dress nice, smelling good and tell him that you are going out for a while and that you'll be back soon, that you need to get out of a while and be with people that will make you feel good about yourself. And tell him that if he want this marriage to work then he is going to half to step up to the plate, or someone else will, you're a woman and that you need things out of him too. And tell him the things that you need to make you feel desirable, sexy, wanted, and most of all feel loved.

Keep in mind Missionary is about the most boring position there is... I hope that's not the only one you do. Get a book of sexual positions and try them all once... then keep the ones you liked notated to do again. Never let things become repetitive. There will be a period right after the honeymoon where things seem to slow down. That's just the newness of things... that will pass so just bear through it and try to keep things interesting. Once you have really gotten comfortible with each other and your place in marriage you can relax and get kinky.

Set a sexy mood in your bedroom, light some candles, get some soft music and some nice lingerie and try to whisper some suggestions in his ear.