Things I find unattractive
Topic came up earlier, I figured I'd share a select list of things I despise in women. Seeing as I've recently come back into the dating world full time, I find myself running into the same castes of women repeatedly, so I figured I'd share, and hopefully get some support to my cause to stop this nonsense.
First off I'm sick of girls that need to be babied through every one of their plethora of insecurities. It's one thing if you like hearing good things about yourself, it's another thing entirely if you need reassurance every twelve seconds. On top of that, the insecure ones are almost always the ones who won't take a compliment and it drives me berserk.
Another thing that pushes my crazy button (and yes, it's very easy to do), are chicks that refuse to talk about what's going on in their heads, despite being open about the fact that they're upset about something. Trust me, as your boyfriend, despite how hard you try, I'm usually going to know when you're upset, don't waste my time prying that stuff out of you, because you're in a relationship, you should feel comfortable sharing.
Women who play hard to get. With me, they might as well rename the game "not going to get chased" because I sure as hell don't chase after them. Don't get me wrong, not putting out the instant you meet a guy does not constitute hard to get, that's common sense. I'll give you an example of hard to get I hate. Met a girl, she chased me around the bar, bought me drinks, etc. She initiated the number trade and whatnot, said she wanted to hang out the next day. Blew me off that time, and two subsequent times, she's a cousin to a friend of mine, so I find out she's not doing , just blowing me off for no reason. So I drop it, and two weeks later I hear from her friend, who's all like why did you quit, she really liked you and couldn't stop talking about you. I told her the story, her friend says, "oh she's just playing hard to get", to which I could only reply that she'd won. Hate it.
Women who think they're paris hilton. If I had a nickel every time I told a girl to take down my number and call me only to get the answer "i don't call people, they call me", followed by their attempt to force their number on me. Well obviously they don't if you're flirting with me all night and you wanted to get my number in the first place. Don't try to impress me with your social inability to cooperate with modern society, just take down my damn number and call me or take a hike, I got other things to worry about.
Women who don't have jobs or a car. On my list of priorities, my income and or transportation come well before my potential girlfriend, yours should too.
Women who talk about how bad their last relationships were. Guess what? Life sucks and we all get into bad relationships at one point or another, get over it, or spend time getting over it and get back to me then. Otherwise, I don't want to hear about how awful chad treated you, because you're only proving to me you lack the common sense to stay away from unemployed drug addicts with criminal records, which leaves me asking the question why are you interested in me? Do I seem like one of them?
Women who act like I'm a child despite only being within 3 years younger than them. Guess what, I'm bigger,stronger,faster,smarter,more talented, and better looking that most of the girls that play this card, so you know what, I suppose you can take age all to yourself. Reach for the stars, sweetheart.
Women who think looks are going to sell a relationship. Sure, you may spend the better part of your social nights beating off drunk guys with a stick, but guess what? There's a reason why you're unhappy and single. You're still looking to me for something, which means we're at an even standing, and college educated guys who make good money and don't have drug addictions seem to be in short supply, so drop the cindy crawford and start convincing me why I should be interested in you.
The "are you going to be able to take care of me?" women. No, I'm not going to be able to take care of you. Why? Because you should be able to care for your goddamn self. I'm not your sugar daddy, and you're not some sort of demented hooker, that being said, how much extra money I have to spend on you is a trivial matter until well after the relationship has taken off.
The "my ex boyfriend was cheap" girls. I don't really care about how cheap your ex boyfriend was, because nine times out of ten, the women who use this line on me are just money grubbing psychos. Don't get me wrong, there's plenty of times that's an accurate case, for example if you spent a lot on him and he didn't spend a dime, then you've got a leg to stand on. Don't try to sell me this crap because you feel like you're entitled to something, did you ever consider the fact that he just never felt like you were worth spending money on? Because I might feel the same way after I hear this.
Women who try to draw nondescript parallels between me and their ex boyfriend. For example, "oh my ex boyfriend used to like hockey". Well gosh golly, now that me and him have SO MUCH IN COMMON, I think you should dismiss me right off the bat right? Me and the rest of the civilized hockey enjoying/playing community, oh and by the way, don't bother going to canada, you'll have big problems there. The common defense to this is, "well nobody wants to be reminded of a bad relationship constantly". If my propensity for enjoying hockey causes you emotional distress, you probably ought to consider GETTING THE OVER YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP.
Speaking of getting over it, if your last relationship was more than a year long and it hasn't been at least 3 months since, longer duration for longer relationships, don't even try to convince me you're over it, nobody gets over things like that that fast, and I don't need your baggage.
Women who try to convince me that I'm not what I really am. For example, I'm fairly sure I'm a good looking guy, I rarely go a night at the bars without a few girls buying me drinks. I spend a lot of time taking care of myself, so it's not undeserved. That being said, I don't need to hear girls trying to talk to me like I'm a few rungs below them on the ladder. The reality of life is if you treat people like who they are, life is a lot easier. I don't need sarcastic remarks about my ego because the reality of life is that you're probably not that much better.
Women who expect me to initiate every little thing. Welcome to the new millennium, guys don't always ask girls out, guys don't always initiate sex, and guys don't always pay for everything. Besides, if you're willing to let me walk out of your life because I didn't initiate what you wanted when you wanted it, why should I expect that you're going to have the fortitude to fight for a relationship when you want to? Not to mention, the comfort mechanism that HE was the one that wanted to have sex with you, and you just obliged doesn't really fly by me. Nobody held a gun to your head, and if it ended up bad, that's the price you paid, it's nobody's fault but your own.
Women who spend more time on their facebook/myspace trying to convince people that their lives are exciting than they spend actually doing exciting things. Guess what, if you have the time to upload every single photo you've ever taken, and caption it, explaining to everybody that you are in fact, having as much fun as you appear to be, I'm going to say your life is pretty empty. Which is all right, obviously mine is too if I'm writing on message boards like these, however at least I've come to terms with it.
Women who exaggerate their careers. For example when asked, what do you do?
"oh, i'm a writer, my first book hasn't been published yet, so i'm working at burger king until it takes off". Ok, so you're not really a writer, you're a burger flipper with a diary. Because I like to scream whitesnake songs out my window when I'm driving, doesn't mean I say I'm a rock star when you ask what I do.
Feel free to add or critique, figured some people could use this.
