My ex boyfriend broke up with me almost two weeks ago. We dated for about two years and had a pretty serious relationship. He broke up with me because I was a very paranoid and jealous person. I questioned him about everything and he felt untrusted. I completely understand why we broke up, and I learned from my mistakes.

I heard from some of his friends, including himself, that he was very devistated after the breakup, but he thought it was best for him and myself. He hated the drama!

We have hung out twice since our breakup, and had a really nice time. I was the one to approach him about us getting together. He obviously agreed both time and even changed some plans with a buddy to come see me one night. When we hung out we acted like we were still dating because we were affectionate and wrestled around like old times. He definitely noticed a change in me and said he was very impressed. We did not have sex, but we did get physical. He was very reluctant to both times because he said getting physical would confuse both me and him and he didn't want to lead me on. We couldn't resist each other though! The second time we hung out I told him I loved him and he didn't say it back. I asked him if he still loved me and he said he still did, but he didn't want to tell me he loved because he didn't want me to think we will get back together. When stuff comes about us being in a relationship he is very negative about it. I don't understand why he can act like we are dating, but doesn't want to tell me he loves me to lead me on. Is he confused about what he wants?

My ex and I have hung out a few times since we have broken up. When we are together we act like we are dating. He is reluctant to get physical, but we always do. We don't have sex though! We have lots of fun like old times and I know he notices that! He always makes negative comments about us not getting back together. I told him I loved him and he didn't say it back. I asked him if he still loves me, and he said he did. He told me that he didn't want to tell me he loves me because he doesn't want me to think that means we will get back together. I don't understand why he changes plans with friends to hang out with me and will hold my hand, cuddle me, kiss me, and rub me, but doesn't want to get back together. I figure if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't see me at all!

We are hanging out this weekend and going to a wwe wrestling event! WWE is our thing! Anyway, is there any chance spending that time with him will make him change his mind or should I just move on?

No I think he don't want to lead you on that their is a chance of getting back together. My ex also did this I knew she was hurting but when I e-mailed her 2 months after breakup I told her I still want to marry her. But I told her I loved her when we were talking, she never said it once back. So, No I don't think he's confused.

Sounds like he is pretty unsure of what he wants out of this relationship. Seems like he is enjoying your company better with no strings attached and without the drama that was there before. Take a step back from the situation and let time take it's course. You obviously want to get back with him into a serious relationship and he just really isn't sure. Is this what you want? You need to tell him that these are your expectations of this and if he doesn't want to live up to those expectations of being together again then you need to move on. You can't wait forever for him to make up his mind. If he does want to try again you have to really get better about being jealous acting and learn to have trust for him. Good luck!

You can't make someone want to be with you or make them love you. It's all up to that person.

He doesn't want to get back together, and making someone like you has been proven to fail (trust me). Just move on and appreciate that you have a good friend.:)

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Originally Posted by cassie1189

My ex and I have hung out a few times since we have broken up. When we are together we act like we are dating. He is reluctant to get physical, but we always do. We don't have sex though! We have lots of fun like old times and I know he notices that! He always makes negative comments about us not getting back together. I told him I loved him and he didn't say it back. I asked him if he still loves me, and he said he did. He told me that he didn't want to tell me he loves me because he doesn't want me to think that means we will get back together. I don't understand why he changes plans with friends to hang out with me and will hold my hand, cuddle me, kiss me, and rub me, but doesn't want to get back together. I figure if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't see me at all!

We are hanging out this weekend and going to a wwe wrestling event! WWE is our thing! Anyways, is there any chance spending that time with him will make him change his mind or should I just move on?

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Personallyyyy;
i dont think you should just move on.
life is just too short to not give something so close, all your effort.

if you and him have all those memories.
and are still technically close.
then what is there to lose?

its better to try to get him back as YOURS.
then to just watch it all fall apart.


because i believe, that YOUR hands could hold things up.
so hold things up..
and make him believe.
that things would be more than just beautiful this time.


even if it means losing in the end.
its better to try than to not know what you could have had.
you get what im saying?

but advice, isnt always the best thing.


the best thing is usually going with your gut and your heart;
at the same time.


believe in yourself.
and you can achieve anything <3

What are the signs that your ex wants you back?

This will be different for every guy! No one is exactly alike. One guy my call you just to see how your doing while the other my avoid you by all means but still want you. It really just depends. Use you intuition; it's usually right!

Better idea:
Tell me what they did/said and can analyze 4 U.

Just be friends but don't ruin it by getting too aggressive. IF he wants to get back together in the future, he will let you know. For now, don't make it worse for yourself by kissing, etc. He's having fun doing that with you, but he already told you he doesn't want to date again, so don't let him have those benefits when you can save it for a new boyfriend. ;)

I think he just needs more time. He seems honest though, so I'm sure he'll tell you if/when he's ready to heat things back up.

Keep trying

It is all up to him. Give it some more time, continue to hangout with him, but don't make it physical. Don't say you love him. If he loves you, he knows you love him and doesn't need to hear it. Just give him some time, and if he is still interested, he will come around.

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Originally Posted by cassie1189

My ex and I have hung out a few times since we have broken up. When we are together we act like we are dating. He is reluctant to get physical, but we always do. We don't have sex though! We have lots of fun like old times and I know he notices that! He always makes negative comments about us not getting back together. I told him I loved him and he didn't say it back. I asked him if he still loves me, and he said he did. He told me that he didn't want to tell me he loves me because he doesn't want me to think that means we will get back together. I don't understand why he changes plans with friends to hang out with me and will hold my hand, cuddle me, kiss me, and rub me, but doesn't want to get back together. I figure if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't see me at all!

We are hanging out this weekend and going to a wwe wrestling event! WWE is our thing! Anyways, is there any chance spending that time with him will make him change his mind or should I just move on?

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The worst thing to do is chase someone makes them want u less

How do you know if your ex boyfriend who ended the relationship still has feelings for you?

About a month ago, my ex boyfriend told me he never wanted to hang out with me again and he was moving on. Well in the past week and a half we have been talking a lot and actually ended up hanging out again. Why does he want to be my friend?

The best way to tell, is if he tells you. If you describe what's been going on, it will be easier to help you. :)

It could be something as simple as not wanting to lose you as a friend. People can say harsh things that they don't mean when they break off a relationship.

Maybe he don't want to lose you as friend as naticalstar said. I think he want to be both togather again but you should be cautious.maybe he wants smthn from you.

Good luck