My girlfreind is 38 and I'm 20, I know the age gap but I love her to bit, everything was going great for a year and a half, then she got cancer, I took her for the operation and looked after her during the first half of her chemo, then we had a little argument and the next day she told me its finished, that she's had enough and that she needs to concentrate on herself, so I booked a last minute holiday to get away, when I got back she told me she doesent want to see me and that she don't want to hear from me till the chemo is over, this pissed me off so I tried to call her and text her with no reply, so I left it a week and called her, she answered, she said were still friends and she needs time alone, but now she's blocked her son from talking to me, she says she will call me when she's ready, butr I can't stop thinking about her, all I can think about is I've lost her, my life isn't the same without her, she lives like 3 roads away so I drive past 1ce a day just to feel close to her, I'm on anti depressants because of all this, I keep imagineing her in a few months time that she will find someone else and the fort of her actually having sex with someone else disgusts me, some please help me I can go on like this much longer, e-mail me [email protected] or reply on her thanks

I can only share my experience with you since I do not know what is in your girlfriend's head. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and pretty much acted the same way, and for two reasons. One is that she is coming to grips with her diagnosis, and that's a very emotional and stressful time. The second is that she did not want her family to see her that way because she didn't want a pity party.
In other words, don't take it personally if she gets a little snappy. Chemo is very tough on the body and right now she just needs some time to deal. She'll call you when she's ready to talk.

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Originally Posted by SpawnOfAzazel

I can only share my experience with you since I do not know what is in your girlfriend's head. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and pretty much acted the same way, and for two reasons. One is that she is coming to grips with her diagnosis, and that's a very emotional and stressful time. The second is that she did not want her family to see her that way because she didn't want a pity party.
In other words, don't take it personally if she gets a little snappy. Chemo is very tough on the body and right now she just needs some time to deal. She'll call you when she's ready to talk.

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Thank you, I do hope your right, thanks for being a friendly person I need all the help I can get at the moment, cheers