Hello all,
As indicated in the subject line of this post I am that lying husband. I have been married 8 years now to a woman that I love unconditionally. Sure we have had our rocky parts just like any marriage but we have worked through them together and always stuck together. But over the course of these 8 years I have noticed a trend developing with my own behavior. As time goes on I find myself deceiving my wife over the most inconsequential things in an effort to avoid what I see as unnecessary conflict. Now my wife is a very smart lady and invariably I always fess up to these deceptions and take a well deserved tongue thrashing about the value of trust and honesty which ironically enough I believe in wholeheartedly. Mind you when these events occur they seem to be almost unconscious things but right after they occur I find it very difficult to resolve it on the spot. Of course and understandably my credibility on every issue seems to be under the highest scrutiny and I find myself fielding the same questions over and over again. Sometimes I feel like I live with an investigator. To emphasize again these lies have never been large issues and I have never cheated or even flirted with another woman since getting married 8 years ago. Of course a lie is a lie. So after that long winded introduction I present my question. What can I do personally to comes to grips with my tendency of deceiving in order to avoid conflict? Thanks everybody.