Deporting a family member
After only dating for three months, my son married a young lady from Peru in 2004. They "had" to get married by a certain date or she had to return to Peru. I believe she was here under a worker's visa. I had doubts about the sincerity of her feelings, but she seemed genuine and gained our trust. She did seem to be a bit anal about making sure to get pictures with date stamps of all family and meaning events.
There was a lot of "red tape", but she eventually received a green card after they had been married for several months. Then things began to change drastically. Their marriage is no longer the picture of happiness and she is obsessed with making lots of money & and getting her dad a visa to come for a "visit." She made a token effort to kill herself by trying to stick her fingers in an electrical socket to force my son to take on second job. She is emotionally unstable.
My son has told me she has shoplifted but has never been caught. Last year she insisted they change accountants at tax time, found one who somehow listed her dad as a dependent living with them in the United States and had them file a joint account under that status. More recently, she charged an airline ticket using my debit card account number which my son has left in his Orbitz account and said it was an accident. She did not have my permission.
She has also claimed domestic abuse and spent time in a safe house, which she asked my son to take her to. During that time, she called him on the phone incessantly and would show up at their home unannounced. She only stayed for two weeks and came back home. She has called me berating me and interrogating me about my son's actions and I finally told her I was going to file a restraining order if she didn't stop harassing & upsetting me.
My son is not a saint. He has a history of substance abuse and has had two relapses since their marriage, but he doesn't deserve the miserable life he has with this woman. She has told him she wants a divorce, but he will have to be the one to leave. I have told him not to go anywhere.
Is there anything we can do? Any and all advice is appreciated.