Well I'm 16 and... I think I'm gay but I find it hard to come to terms with it, I'm scared that if I come out my family will disown me because my family are STRICT christians(a cousin of mine came out and they performed an exorcism type thing and sended him to a camp that make you straight so I'm terrifed at that fact of coming out:( so I'm in need of advice:confused:

Although they will find out sooner or later, if you are gay, right now I feel that you would be OK keeping it to yourself. Especially since you think you are, and don't know you are as of yet.

Well you are only 16, so I would recommend coming to grips with it yourself. As soon as you get older (18) and you go away to college you meet so many people who are like minded and are going through the same things that you are. You will in a sense, find a family who understands you and loves you. If you feel that you cannot come out to your family then that is your choice. I have a friend who has never come out to his family (he's 28). He is out to everyone in his life but them he feels okay about it because he has made his friends his family.

You will be okay. There is nothing wrong with how you feel, God made you right? Last time I checked God doesn't make mistakes. Love yourself and worry about your family later.

Keep the secret to yourself until you move out of your parents house. Then you can tell them. They can't put you to the camp and they should care about you because you are there son.

I agree with everyone here that you need to give yourself some more time before you spill the beans to mom and dad and the rest of the family. What I will suggest in addition to that is finding some type of support group. Your going to have days were you feel like you can't keep it a secret anymore or you are very frustrated. These are the times when you should have a group you can talk to and they can help you through it. Good luck to you.

You are who you are and no one can change that as long as you love who you are other people will come around don't change 4 any one but yourself

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Originally Posted by bebo00

Well im 16 and...i think im gay but i find it hard to come to terms with it, im scared that if i come out my family will disown me because my family are STRICT christians(a cousin of mine came out and they performed an exorcism type thing and sended him to a camp that make you straight so im terrifed at that fact of coming out:( so im in need of advice:confused:

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You only can live your life to please you, when you try to live your life to please other you will be unhappy, so I am telling you no matter what others think about you be who you are and remember that this is your life and no one can live it for you. Take care and remember this is your life and you should live it as you see fit