I am married with a son. I am happy and healthy. But I continue to have constant dreams about two ex lovers who were my best friends. Our friendship took a turn for the worse and I ended up losing two of my best friends over a stupid mistake that I wish I could take back. It has been years and I thought I had moved on and forgotten them. But I continue to have constant dreams about one or both of my ex lovers. I wish I could figure out why I can't seem to let go. Or if I am still in love.
Alisha

All my life I have had dreams with fish in them, they are in aquariums, streams, ponds sometimes they are in dark fish in dark water, sometimes they pretty colors in clear water, last night they were in clear water but they were eating each other up... does this mean anything?

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Originally Posted by mommiesink

I am married with a son. I am happy and healthy. But I continue to have constant dreams about two ex lovers who were my best friends. Our friendship took a turn for the worse and I ended up losing two of my best friends over a stupid mistake that I wish I could take back. It has been years and I thought I had moved on and forgotten them. But I continue to have constant dreams about one or both of my ex lovers. I wish I could figure out why I can't seem to let go. Or if I am still in love.
Alisha

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I am sorry for you but I would dream about my ex even after I was just married I finally confronted my ex and realized he was the same I left many years ago. He has not done any better since we broke up 9 yrs ago. Than I look at myself I am married to a wonderful man with a new built home with three beautiful children. I think when I realized what a looser he truly was and how much better I am without him those dreams just went away along with my feelings for him. Good Luck.

What I do know is that sometimes when you think about a specific thing very much, chances are that you are going to dream about it, it happens to me a lot

Lol... No , but I like you anyway ;)

I know how you feel, Alisha. I left a very tumultuous, sometimes abusive relationship ages ago - over fifteen years ago, just about - and at the time when it broke off, I was completely crushed because he was the first guy I ever really had feelings for. As terrible and bad-for-me as that relationship was, I didn't want it to end. For the eleven years after him, I didn't have another relationship. I didn't even go out on a date. Then, in 2006, I met another guy, whom I am now married to... but still, I often have thoughts and dreams of that ex who loved me and hurt me so very bad all the time. It won't go away. Sometimes the breakup still hurts, even though I know it was for the best and that he was absolutely not good for me. In spite of my wonderful, loving husband now, I still sometimes admittedly miss the jerk who completely crushed me mentally and emotionally all the time. It makes me feel crazy! I had a dream about him just last night, and in my dreams, we are always back together, and in those dreams, something inside me just needs to be with him. I wish I could get rid of it because I feel crazy... like I am still in love with someone I never should have loved in the first place and in spite of the great husband I have now. I truly think sometimes our first lovers take a piece of us with them, and it is a long time -- or maybe never -- that we get that piece back. That's the best way I know to explain it... but you're not alone in having dreams about your exes... or even in missing them or still loving them... I think it happens to more people than would like to admit it. It doesn't mean you don't love your current significant other - just that there are wounds that have never closed up.