My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. In the beginning the sex was wonderful and more than 2 times a day sometimes... Now I'm lucky if I get it once a week. There was one time where we went 3 weeks without any, but then did it twice and not again for another 3 weeks because I had an infection. This morning I was messing around with him and its always OK to do that, but the second I want anything, he won't do it. He has never really done ANYTHING for me accept sex, which I don't mind as long as I am getting some, but that isn't even there. And when I ask him about it he gets mad at me and says, "not right now." So my question is, why is it all right for me to play with him, but yet I get nothing in return? And why doesn't he seem to want to have sex with me anymore? Anyone else having this problem.

P.S. I am also like a nymph, I want it all the time... but that could be because I never really get any in the first place.

P.P.S. We sleep together a lot and we are always hanging out. And if we are not hanging out he is at home where he talks to me online. So I really don't think he has time to be cheating on me. But there could always be the possibility.

~*Sexually frustrated*~

First of all if there is no conclusive evidence that he si cheating throw that out the window. Sorry to break it to you but most guys will get tired of the same sex routine after a matter of time. Which is why you need some type of other substance to the relationship to hold it together, like hmm I don't know.. love?
The problem I'm seeing here is that you are two very selfish people looking for sexual gratification but not that willing to sacrifice for the others benefit.
Sorry but it may be time to move along and find other people who are the giving type

PS. By any chance are both of you only or youngest children?

We have love, we have been through quite a bit together. I am giving to him all the time. He is just not a very giving person. He is just like his Dad. Thanks for the advice.

If he is not the giving type in that he's not taking the time to try to give you an orgasm then I think it's time to move on. Sometimes people are just not that sexually compatible. It's no wonder that you think you're a 'nymph' because you were never fully sexually satisified in the first place. There may be more going on but he sounds selfish to me.

I agree with you... also... a nymph is a rather large bug, a nympho is a sex addict. Just thought that was humorous...

I hope you talk about how you are feeling. If you have and there is no effort on his part-------move on. Life is too short. I think it is important for us to know if this has been going on for a long time. That is important. We all go through "spells." If yo have talked that a long time has gone by you need to believe there are plenty of great guys out there that would love the opportunity to be with you.

If you talk about it, and that makes him mad then I bet other areas of this relationship are not going so well either. Lack of communication is a deal breaker in a relationship. I honestly don't see any communication here. After 2 years you should be able to talk and resolve any problem you have. There is something else going on here, and you need to find out what it is.

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Originally Posted by thissucks

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. In the beginning the sex was wonderful and more than 2 times a day sometimes...Now I'm lucky if I get it once a week. There was one time where we went 3 weeks without any, but then did it twice and not again for another 3 weeks because I had an infection. This morning I was messing around with him and its always ok to do that, but the second I want anything, he won't do it. He has never really done ANYTHING for me accept sex, which I don't mind as long as I am getting some, but that isn't even there. And when I ask him about it he gets mad at me and says, "not right now." So my question is, why is it alright for me to play with him, but yet I get nothing in return? And why doesn't he seem to want to have sex with me anymore? Anyone else having this problem.

P.S. I am also like a nymph, I want it all the time...but that could be because I never really get any in the first place.

P.P.S. We sleep together a lot and we are always hanging out. And if we are not hanging out he is at home where he talks to me online. So I really don't think he has time to be cheating on me. But there could always be the possibility.

~*Sexually frustrated*~

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Of course you are not a Nynpho, some man are different in that way I had a similar situation with my exhusband, but I thought it was the way he was, and then I found ou that he has somebody else, I do not mean that your boyfriend has someone else but you should talk to him about the ex fact and try to be sexy and dress super sexy for him, and tell him dirty words, but if that does not work, forget it he must have someone else.

Also, if you are gretting frustrated tell him, sometimes if you play with yourself in front of him works, but on top of that if that does not work , I guess he lost interested or either way he has someone else may be you can go together to therapy, as I told you I had the same problem and finally I left him because I was not happy I can bet that you even feel much better if you do it yourself, just learn how to do it and I bet you will not need him
Take Care

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Originally Posted by talaniman

If you talk about it, and that makes him mad then I bet other areas of this relationship are not going so well either. Lack of communication is a deal breaker in a relationship. I honestly don't see any communication here. After 2 years you should be able to talk and resolve any problem you have. There is something else going on here, and you need to find out what it is.

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Yes... I think you might be on to something here.