Okay he's 17 I'm 13 and he's like I love u.. and I can never tell if it's a joke or if its serious so I never know what to do? And I have very mixed feeling about him.. at times I hate him an other... ya

Age is just a number, Becca74. It's all about the heart.

XenoSapien

Becca,

You are too young for this dating non-sense. Have fun with your life. Keep away from sex at such an early age, better yet keep away from 16 year old guys. They are a walking hormone. Be careful don't get pregnant.

What about the 16 year-old? You're playing with fire, becca.

XenoSapien

Hello.

At your age you will fall in Love with many boys and each one will be a stronger Love and at the time he will be the Man you will Love forever. That is until next week...

If you could understand that your life is going through so many changes in the next few years and what's important today will be forgotten tomorrow so enjoy today, have fun and live life to the fullest just don't do anything today you will feel bad about tomorrow. I know you can't understand what I'm saying and that's part of how we all learn and grow in life. But if you can yuck this away in your mind to use on the days that you need a little help you will be better off.

Good Luck
Dennis777

It is not unusal for young girls like yourself to be attracted to older guys. Know this though, he can go to jail for messing with you and he is way to mature for one your age. Stick with the guys your own age.

Hi Becca, you have gotten mostly good advice. But a word of caution, a 16 year old boy DOES think about sex. Many of them think about nothing but sex ;) .

At 13 you are not quite ready for full blown dating. Hanging out, especially in groups, is more your speed. Wait another year until you are 14 and you can consider real dating.

That you recognize this as pully love is good. You will probably go through several of these before you become an adult. Its normal and understandable. But keep in mind that you have a job right now and that's to be a kid and enjoy your childhood, do good in school and prepare yourself for adulthood.

The gap between 13 and 16 (or 14 and 17) is pretty wide. Between 21 and 24) its not important.

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Age is just a number, Becca74. It's all about the heart.

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This is true for older couples, but for a 13 year old, the heart plays a lot of tricks on them. There are also predators out there (yes even as young as 16), that need to be watched out for.

This was not good advice, In my opinion.

My 17 year old son had a 17 year old teammate that liked my 13 year old daughter last fall. My 17 year old son said "mom he is very immature that is why he likes a 13 year old girl." "He is very dangerous because immature boys do stupid things." Becca listen to a mature 17 year old and stay away from older boys. She did.

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Okay hes 17 im 13 and hes like i love u..and i can never tell if its a joke or if its serious soo i never know what to do? and i have very mixed feeling about him..at times i hate him an other...ya

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Its totally normal and cool for a 13 year old girl to have a "crush" on a 17 year old boy. God knows I did, as did all of my friends at one point or another. But 4 years (as small a number as that is) is a HUGE gap at your age. You don't think so now, but when you're 17 you will, I promise. Just think about a 9 year old - you're too old to get along with or be attracted to a 9 year old, right? Well if this boy was a mentally stable 17 year old boy, he would feel the same about you that you feel about that 9 year old... get it? You are just fine, sweetheart, totally "normal", like I said all girls crush on older boys, and HATE it when the boy doesn't even notice you, but that is how it should be. That is, if the older boy is not a pervert... (and hey - I'm not some elderly grandma giving you advice, I just turned 26, so it hasn't been very long at all since I was there.)

Good Luck (and please be safe)
M.

If he means it as an "i love you as more then a friend" then I advise you to turn your back on that and not expect much in return. You're young yet... and from what i've seen love/flirting can lead a guy to think all kinds of things you don't even have in mind. It's fine if he's just a crush, but it's also very dangerous. Take it from someone who was young and dated a guy 5 years older then her while she was underage and he was legally an adult, it's a fire you play with, but you can get burned in so many ways.

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This is true for older couples, but for a 13 year old, the heart plays a lot of tricks on them. There are also predators out there (yes even as young as 16), that need to be watched out for.

This was not good advice, IMHO.

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I've already reinforced the idea that she doesn't need to be worrying about guys right now in another post she did. I agreed with someone who pointed it out. She already has been told. What is 'IMHO'?

XenoSapien

Stay away from him becca74!! My cousin was in the same situation you are in but she was 14 and the guy was 18 and she made the wrong choice. Trust me!! Date a guywho is your age or within 2 years. PLEASE