This is my first time on this thing an I really need some advice. I have ben married for over a year now but I feel like my marriage has fallen apart. Me an my wife have ben arguin for the past few months about a couple issues that I can't seem to get over they are always on my mind, its not that I don't trust my wife I am just uneasy with a couple situations so if some one could just write back an help me out it would be so amazing. So here is the Question I have a step son but the dad left an now wants to come back after a year an my wife is totally fine with it they laugh an joke like nothing ever happens I am very upset with this but I don't want to be selfish? I don't no how to be OK with this

Of course this makes you un-easy. They have a son and he'ssuddenly back. But keep in mind that she is married to YOU. If this is bothering you wayy too much for you to deal with it, then talk to her about it.:)

You can't keep a child away from a father who wants to be there for him that would be extremely selfish of you. No matter what he's done in the past he's ready to be a part of this boy's life. You should just tell your wife how u feel about the situation and ask her how she really feels. She may be laughing on the outside but feeling completely different on the inside.

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Originally Posted by da one

this is my first time on this thing an i really need some advice. i have ben married for over a year now but i feel like my marriage has fallen apart. me an my wife have ben arguin for the past few months about a couple issues that i can't seem to get over they are always on my mind, its not that i dont trust my wife i am just uneasy with a couple situations so if some one could just write back an help me out it would be so amazing. so here is the Question i have a step son but the dad left an now wants to come back after a year an my wife is totally fine with it they laugh an joke like nothin ever happens i am very upset with this but i dont wana be selfish? i dont no how to be ok with this

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You're going to have to make yourself fine with this because your wife has a child with another man. In one way or another, he will be in your life until your step-son is grown. Try to be open with your wife about your feelings and perhaps she agrees with you but is willing to overlook the obvious weaknesses of the 'dead-beat' dad for the best interests of their child. And take a little heart, if he was willing to be out of his child's life for an entire year, chances are he'll take off again. Be the best step-dad to your step-son since you may end up being the only real long term male figure in his life and he'll be looking to you to set the example of how to become a man. Best of luck.